My husband has cheated on my at least 4 times: Advice?

I’ve been married for 9 years. My husband has cheated on me at least four times. I’ve forgiven him and let it go because we (then) had a son. While in June of 2019, I had our 2nd son together. In September, I found out that he cheated on me again. Here it is January, and it is finally sinking in. I’ve lost all trust and respect for him. I love him as my boy’s dad, but I feel no connection or anything anymore. I need advice on what to do and say without my boys suffering.

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Leave. Yes the kids will be hurt, but you are teaching them that cheating is acceptable!!!

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Kick him to the curb!

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Leave…you should’ve left long ago…do not let your boys grow up and think thats the kind of men they want to be…i say this with love…grow a backbone and salvage your self respect sis

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4 times? Well seems to me that since you allowed that continuous treatment he never really meant his sorry. You need to leave. Take your son and leave. Your son is learning what he sees and your husband’s bad treatment is teaching him that’s ok.

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Uh im sorry you let him do this to you… Stop being a damsel in distress step up and be a woman/mother and leave that MF

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Pack him a bag and sit it on the porch

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Wouldn’t of been a second time :thinking: get rid of him !

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Get out. You have sons to raise. Their father is a poor excuse of a husband and man. That’s NOT how you want your sons to grow up thinking that what he’s doing is right, I would hope.

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Leave. He doesn’t respect you, and I don’t know how you’ll ever trust him.

Every time you forgive him you are giving him permission to do it again. Either leave or stop complaining and except it.

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Find your feet and Makes moves!!

Kick him to the curb, your children will pick up on his manipulative ways!!

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Does anyone else wish we could get updates on the situations we give advice to???

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Do not stay for the kids you deserve more

Ya dumb. You should have left him the first time. Definitely after the 2nd. Now its 4? Ya dumb!

Better to come from a broken home than to live in one

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Take out the trash…it has been piling up …has to go. You deserve better…it starts w/you.

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Stay with him. You seem to enjoy the drama.

You can co-parent and not stay in a loveless marriage or a situation that disrespects you.

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