My husband invited someone on a trip when it was supposed to be just the two of us: Advice?

So Monday, my husband and I were supposed to be leaving for Alabama. We have to go pick up his mom and his sister. I’ve been looking forward to getting away from everything where we live. It’s been a ton of drama, and I was just so happy to escape everyone for a few days. Well, today, things kind of went a little sideways with the rental car and whatnot, and now my husband is talking about bringing a friend with us. Also, a much smaller car than what we were originally looking at. This friend is one of my best friends but is a major control freak and always has to be in charge. It was just supposed to be and my husband, and now I’m extremely upset. This means I’m stuck in the back of the car for 12 hours there and then stuck in the back of the car with two other people who are not small women for 12 hours back. I wanted everything from home left behind so I could just enjoy things. But now I don’t even want to go. I told my husband that if we asked this person for any sort of advice or help that he’d want to come along. I love this person but I was really looking forward to it just being my husband and me the whole way down. I told my husband my thoughts and opinions and how I was now really upset and didn’t want to go, and all he said was, "you’re coming with me " am I wrong to be upset? I mean I’m grateful that this person is offering to help. But I can only handle this person in small doses. And trapped in a car with this person doesn’t sound appealing to me. I feel like I’m being selfish and acting like a baby about it but idk…

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I would be upset too.

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You’re not being a baby or selfish

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Nope you’re not selfish tell him they are not going and you don’t want them too

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You’re not being selfish at all. Tell him either only you two go or the trip is canceled

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You have every right to want that time. Put your foot down Mama.

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Get sick , and stay home !! :thinking::sunglasses:

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Either put your foot down with him or tell him the other people need to get their own car so you two can be together in your own car.

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Honestly, if it was me, I’d tell him the friend can’t go or if he wants that person, I’d stay home.

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Stay home and have a little vacation from all of them. Your husband should respect your wishes, if you really don’t want to share your vacation with everyone…don’t.

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You’re making yourself uncomfortable to please others. Please don’t.

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You need to tell him your feelings n just say it’s be nice for you 2 to drive by yourself n enjoy the time peacefully - no way do you need to be in backseat no dang way it’s your husband n your place is not in no dammm backseat NO !!!

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Tell your friend that you really wanted this to be some alone time with hubby and could they bow out? if not stay home and tell hubby he can choose the company he prefers to be with, its not a choice of both but an either or…

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Considering all the circumstances, I would be pissed. And then finding out that the car is smaller than what was expected, he needs to tell her that there’s no room for anyone else. If he doesn’t, if I were you, I would.

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I don’t see why your the one sitting in the back…

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Heck no thats so rude.

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If you have to go tell him you’ll drive and he can sit in the back. Bet that changes his tune a little. :laughing:
Good luck!

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Tell him its you and him that’s it

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Oh hell no… You’re not being selfish or rude or any other negative word And there’s no way you should be sitting in the back…no no NO!!

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I’d opt to stay home then. He’s got a friend going, seems like he’s got it under control.
Plus you may just need the peace without everyone at home.

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