To separate or not to separate? Okay, mommas, my husband and I have been married under six months, together for a couple of years, and we have one child together. Now here’s where our problems lie, he’s constantly upset with me and fighting with me. I don’t even have to do anything wrong, and he’s scowling at me, making a scene at family functions, ruining every holiday we have together with arguing, he doesn’t plan dates, doesn’t make romantic gestures, and he never wants to have sex. Every time we argue which feels like every other day, he comes back at me with “I’m stressed” “I’m not feeling” “this has been a hard week.” I also have hard weeks. I am a stay at home mom, and I’m so tired all the time, but I always make sure to be positive and happy for our child. He, on the other hand, will start fights in front of our kid; I try to stop it from getting worse, and he won’t let it stop. What do I do? I’m so tired of fighting; I’m so done with feeling unloved and unwanted… I just want to feel wanted again honestly. Before I met him, I would never have settled for this, but I love him, and so I try. What would you do in my situation?
sounds like a narcissist to me & will only get worse as time goes on. Run…Run as fast as you can
Was he like this while you were dating? Was he like this before a baby? If the answer is no, he is either cheating or depressed. Is he open to couples therapy? I would start there if you want to save your marriage, but he has to want to as well. If he makes no effort to fix your marriage, then you know what to do.
Leave honey. It’s the best thing for your mind and soul.
Sounds like he may have some depression issues . Seek counseling before you guys separate. I hope it wasn’t always awful. You both would benefit from counseling. If he’s not going to cooperate or go with you then you must do something. Good luck
Hes being emotionally abusive and trying to break you down. Dont stay in that because you love him. Hes not showing you love. Speak up, figure out if you can really do it for the next 50 years. Dont waste your life waiting for him to change.
Do you think he’d try counseling or couples therapy?
If you have to ask, then yes it’s time to leave.
Leave, do you really want your child to hear all that and grow up in that atmosphere
Couples therapy. If he won’t go, leave. This isn’t going to get better on its own.
Hmmm, I would think cheating, but Its not a situation you need to settle for.
If you want to make your relationship work then try counseling, if not then leave. Also do y’all spend time with just you two at all. If not start dating each other. I think once we get married we think that things will be awesome now no more dates and etc but we still need those date nights to reconnect.
I may be the odd ball but the first year of marriage is always the hardest. Have you talked to him about how it makes you feel and tell him if it dosent quit you are leaving?
Maybe take a break, leave so he realizes what hes lost, then he may change! If not you’re better off…fighting isnt healthy for you or your child! (Which you obviously know bc you try to stop it in front of your kid) him constantly starting fights with you is a form of emotional abuse! And he isnt the only one who can be stressed out!!! If I were you I’d definitely tell him “look I’m leaving, we obviously need a break” maybe hes just to comfortable with treating you that way!
Lay it out there like you just did here. He can either try to change and maybe you will work as a couple or he won’t want to try and you can choose to walk away to be free/happy or to stay and deal with his attitude.
You should divorce him so he can find someone worth his time. If arguing is enough to make you call quits on a MARRIAGE, he deserves better. The men aren’t the only ones who can plan dates and all that other bullshit. You aren’t a victim. Get a job.
Is this new behavior?
I’d ask him to get councling together and him anger management.
Our home should be a safe haven for me and our children. Don’t ever let anyone destroy that.
He needs to get help or get out.
You’ve barely even started your marriage. There’s extra pressure on a young marriage. Hang in there. Maybe see a marriage counselor. Maybe he’s having a hard time communicating what he needs. Have some deep talks.
Okay but why is he taking everything out on you like a dam punching bag you head and ur heart sound confused… have you guys tried counseling? If he’s not willing to help change he’s not going to, I don’t deal with the whole disrespect thing. Esp with how often it seems to be happening, at the end of the day it’s u and ur babe u need to make sure are happy and in healthy situations good luck momma
Do you take him on dates? Make romantic gestures to him? I feel he isnt just fighting with you. He has an underlying issue. Talk to him. Take him on a date. And make him feel like u want to feel and see if it starts to show. If it doesnt there is ur answer. I feel sometimes we expect things we dont give ourselves. TRY. Ur only 6m in. Marriage isnt for the faint of heart.