My husband is obsessed with his xbox: Advice?

My husband and I have two kids between us. About a year ago, my husband bought an Xbox, so we had something to do in our free time. But now lately he’s become obsessed. It has affected him helping out with the kids when he gets home and is now causing him to be late to work every day. I’ve talked to him about it before when he would stop helping me with the kids at night and him just jumping on once he got home. He has improved a little on it but still half-ass things like helping clear the table, picking up toys, or putting the kids in bed. He is now getting to work super late because he ignores his alarms. I get it he wants to have his free time and relax, but it’s so difficult explaining to him that I need help with the kids. I always have dinner ready for him when he’s home so he can see and spend time with the kids and me but once he’s done eating he’s running to the Xbox, and I’m left to clean up and get the kids ready for bed and then waiting on him to actually put them in bed. It doesn’t help that none of his friends don’t have kids, so they’re always rushing him to get on. I’ve tried talking to him, but he only changes for about a week, and things fall back into the same thing, which is now causing him to be late. I’m not his mom, so I’m not going to wake up and get him up. He also gets really mad when I try to, so i give up. Please don’t say to leave him because things are good. I just need help helping him through this. I get it he wants his free time, and I allow him and try not to complain that much, but I’m exhausted & it’s hurting financially when he’s late, and his check is cut short.

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I would throw the Xbox out :woman_shrugging:t2::woman_shrugging:t2:

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Take Xbox and hide it lol

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Accidentally break it

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You need to get rid of the Xbox
Responsibilities come first he’s an adult not a child throw it out if he loves you he’ll understand

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Take a hammer and bust it up. It’ll be a fight at first but he will understand after a few weeks.

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Its a addiction he has it my son had it to when he was younger he just had to play and he would play for hours. But he was a teenager. You husband is an adult and has responsibilities so he shouod only be on it when the kids are asleep

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Take that Xbox and sell it and tell him it’s either you or the xbox

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I say sell it and take the money and use it for an outing with the family

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That caused a huge issue with my husband and I, my advice accidents happen. :wink:

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Set aside couple hours a day for his xbox time and the some time for you. If that doesnt work id be saying me or the xbox

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Either he stops being a shit and helps with his family, or the Xbox goes out the damn window 🤷

First off everyone saying to smash it is encouraging psychotic and abusive behavior. So nah don’t do that. Secondly he’s become/becoming addicted. He needs help realizing that and help getting over it for the better of his family. Sit down with him and have an adult conversation about everything. Lay it all out and don’t sugar coat it. 

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The ones saying sell it and or break it are ridiculous. I have an Xbox and my husband has a PC. It’s all about moderation and learning to prioritize. Sometimes I have to get on to my husband but once they learn how to balance then it isn’t a problem. He needs to learn how to be an adult first, THEN if he chooses to still act like a child, maybe tell him you need a man not another child to look after :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Smashing other people’s belongings is wrong. He needs to grow up though, for real.

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Yeah nope. My husband used to play all the time, now that we have a toddler he rarely gets to unless he’s home alone, because we’re parents and don’t have spare time. A couple hours a week set aside for both of you would be a good compromise, otherwise I’d be having issues.

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Spill water on it and act like you don’t know what happened lol

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We have a rule in the house that (apart from phones) no Xbox’s are used during the week (Monday to Friday), on the weekends they are allowed. Set family rules. On the weekends they are only allowed on when our son goes for he’s nap or to bed at night.

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This is a one of the bigger reasons that I divorced my ex husband. He was obsessed with his playstation.

I wonder if that Xbox is thirsty :tumbler_glass: :upside_down_face:

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