My husband keeps talking about going to strip clubs: Advice?

I have been married for four years, going on 5. Here recently, all he has been doing is talking about going to Strip clubs. I told him it’s disrespectful to me as his wife. He says I’m crazy and that I have self-esteem problems. Am I? 2 years ago, we were on a float trip, and he was throwing beads at girls to get them to flash him. I told him I didn’t like that, and he says “it’s just what guys do”. I know that’s not what guys do when they respect their spouse. I told him I’m having self-esteem problems because of how he treats me. He stares at every ass that walks by when we’re together. He just makes me sick when he does this. I need advice

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I wouldn’t like that either but many will say their men that’s what men do. Well if your married and have a wife there should be no reason for you to go to a strip club or ask another lady to flash you. It’s about respect. Tell him either he’s married and doesn’t do that stuff or he’s single and he can do whatever he wants.

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Gross, leave him. He has no respect for you.

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Not married “guys”. He has little respect for you.

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Time to leave. He will never change

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My hubby goes to strip clubs…i have no issues…but i also go to strip clubs…what works for one relationship may not work for another. The fact that you have an issue with it and addressed it with him and he still does IS definitely an issue. “Its what men do” is a pathetic excuse.

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WTF :face_with_symbols_over_mouth: Definitely not ok especially if your not ok with it and the fact that he was throwing beads to get women to flash him in front of you :flushed: I would have divorced him then. That is extremely disrespectful and I wouldn’t tolerate it. Sorry :disappointed: If you let him continue to act like this he will just keep doing it.

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I wish mine would go to one, so i could go to one​:woman_shrugging::joy::rofl:

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If you have clearly set that boundary and he crossed it, there is no boundary he will not cross. Time to re-examine your relationship and ask yourself how many more boundaries will you allow him to cross without standing up for yourself

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If he does that when hes with you imagine what he does without you around hes probably cheating on you

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DISRESPECTFUL! He will continue to walk all over you if you continue to let him!

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Unacceptable, period.

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He’s a pig. No respect for you at all and won’t change. :pig2:

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Yuck. Super disrespectful. He’s trying to excuse being a doosh because he’s a man? No thank you. Don’t stand for it. You’re not wrong at all.

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If its like this now,u should probably get out before he starts sleeping around on u

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Whole Man Disposal Service: Yes, the Entire Man

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Fight fire with fire. Go to the club where men strip and let him know how much you liked it. He’ll stop.

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D-i-v-o-r-c-e and get rid of the overgrown twelve year old.

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Wow. I guess I have a lot of trust with my SO cuz I would take him to a strip club and go with him and have fun! I tell him that other chicks asses look good cuz if a woman can openly admit that another woman looks good she must be very confident in herself!

That is disgusting to me and shows how little he respects you.

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