My husband left me today: Advice?

Well, my husband walked out on our kids and me today. He basically told me that I ruined his life because two of our kids were born when I was on birth control. (IUD). Obviously, my babies were meant to be here, but he left today saying he doesn’t want to raise them anymore. I think he is seeing someone else, and that’s why it was so easy for him to walk away. How can I get past this and raise my kids to know they are loved even though he walked away? I feel broken.

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Sorry about the language, but fuck him, raise your babies and Love them.

Just take it day by day. Don’t stress focus on yourself and your beautiful family.

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I am so so sorry he did this to you. One day at a time is how. Little by little rebuild. Know this you did nothing wrong. He is the one who is wrong 2 kids and he’s trapped ummmm noooo buddy nice try. I’ve been there girl and there is light at the end of the tunnel day by day day by day. And even on the days you don’t feel good you get up you make yourself feel as pretty as possible you look in the mirror and say I’m a badass!!

We are mamas!! And in the end we end up doing the damn thing bc why?! We sure in hell can!! You got this!! You might not have it all figured out but when it comes time to it, it’ll all work out how it’s suppose to!! Us mamas are warriors!

One day at a time. Stay strong and believe in yourself. Always remember you got this.

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Let ur love for those kids be ur guide…
Been there done that

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I went through this myself but w 4 kids. I promise yall are going to be just fine. We don’t realize how strong we are until we have no other options. I know it seems impossible but keep your head up and keep going.

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So sorry mamma. It will hurt for a while. Dont push those feelings down because that can easily become a ticking emotional time bomb. Focus on you and your children. That “man” doesn’t deserve the title of husband or father if thats how he feels.

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Kids follow your lead with how they handle big emotions…the same goes with the passing of a family member. You do what you need to self care wise/ crying it out ect. But try your best to hold your head high around the kiddos (if you can’t it’s okay just do your best) we are all human

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Its so hard at first but You will get past it & wonder why u even cared in the first place, When he wants u back say no
He doesn’t deserve you or those kids

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Let family and friends help you as much as possible as you transition to single parenthood. It sounds like you’re better off without him. Im sorry, I know its difficult

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Keep your head up girl!
You are better …
He did you a favour ! Your true prince is out there!

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I’ve been in the same boat. Just be there for the kids, take it one day at a time and stay strong. First thing you need to do is go apply for help (food, medical and ect). In the states they also require that you file for child support when you file for government help. Then see about getting the ball rolling on a custody agreement because if he has them and there’s no agreement, he doesn’t have to give them back or let you see them. Just remember, It will get better!!

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How old are you babies? Keep you head high and keep kicking “butt” in the new position of being a single mom. They will learn by what the are taught watching you. I’m sure once or twice emotions will spill out around the kids… if so use it as a teaching opportunity… expressing emotions, having someone to talk to is important… and you dont necessarily have to go in depth into the adult or situation matters. And just be a constant reminder to them that you love them.

Going through that now my 7 month old sons dad left when I was 6 months pregnant and he says hes in Mexico but hes really in texas smh, my son will prob never meet him.

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Focus set your 2 kids as your strength and inspiration to go on with your life, be strong for them they still need you been there before and thanks God I make it as a challenge to myself to give more effort because my little ones needs me more than his father​:slight_smile::hugs:

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Sounds like a complete narcissist who found a new supply, I know it hurts but in long run it’s better… and better for your kids… I will bet money he will be calling begging to come back as soon as his new supply realizes what a POS he is… stay strong and stay gone!

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Best advice cry in the shower as hard as you need to dry tour face be strong for u and your kids… I was scared to be single and alone with three kids guess what it was the best thing that ever happened to us… I grew in to the strong independent woman and we are so happy… it will hurt a bit but I bet you will turn something better… you got this us Mims are stronger then we think… but if you get knocked down don’t stay down dust of your knees and get back up

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Love these kids for you, anything he does or doesn’t do is on him. Sounds like a tool anyway and you and the kids will be better off without him… Make sure you shut the door on his ass and don’t reopen it. His loss… You haven’t done anything wrong, so get up each day and take on the world for you and your kids