My husband refuses to be a dad: Advice?

I seriously cannot get my husband to do ANYTHING when it comes to the kids? He won’t play with them and go anywhere like the park etc. if it ain’t fun for him! It’s a constant fight, and Idk what to do anymore I have told him it’s NOT ABOUT us anymore, but he doesn’t care.

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Throw that whole man away girl.

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get a lawyer and leave

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How old are the kids? How many? Is this a new change or has he always been kinda distant

you’re his parent. That’s pretty much all their is to it, you have a man child.

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Divorce his selfish ass

Do you have any mom friends who could recruit their husbands to help out? Like a daddy play date at Scandia or something.

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Give him back to his mom lol

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Tell him to shape up or ship out

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Bye… because if wont be about you when you are 50 and there aren’t kids in the house either. You will have a lonely life that could be spent with someone so much better!

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My ex was the same.
That’s part of the reason why he’s an ex. If you’re going to be a single parent then you may aswel be a single parent with your own space.

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You can’t make him want to be a dad. I’m sorry. But can’t force him

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Bye . Bye then…a good single parent family is better than the children knowing that one parent does not care about them…

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You may have chosen the wrong man. My great grandma left her husband because he ignored their children. If she could do that in the 40’s so can you.

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Y’all have great advice to leave. Single much? Marriage and parenting is SO MUCH WORK! Holy shit girl. I’m sorry you have to deal with such a hardship. I would recommend seeing a counselor, if you dont have time, there is live counseling online. Its imperative. Sometimes people dont understand where you are coming from until you put it point blank and there is someone there interpreting the frustration…

He is immature and selfish. Unfortunately you can’t make him be a dad. Just spend time with your kids and theyh will know mama is always there.

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For sure don’t have any more kids!

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Did he want the kids? Just wonder if maybe he never wanted to be a dad and thats why he’s not wanting to do anything with them.

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People are always quick to say leave. My fiancé was like that but after finally telling him a thousand times he has learned. Leave for the day and make him take care of the kids and you go have fun. Maybe find something that interests all of you. I get it that parks can get boring for you. Also take time for y’all so y’all aren’t losing yourself.

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Is this something that just started? How old are the kids? Some men have trouble adjusting to new dad life but some others are just plain not interested in their little ones.

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