My husband treats our kids differently: Advice?

I really need some advice. I am a stay at home, mom. My husband and I have been together for 2years. I have two kids from a previous relationship that only know my husband as their dad. I am sick of feeling like they are being treated differently. We share one child together, and he will buy the most expensive things for his bio child, but when it comes to anything for my two from a previous relationship, it’s like pulling teeth to spend money. I know I need to get a job, but we live in a small town, and it’s hard to find a reliable babysitter. This really hurts me. I have been selling my items to make some money to buy my two other kids something other than crap, so I am not worried about that. I am just sick of how he treats them differently and do not know how to talk to him about it. Please help

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Be honest. He may not realize it until you point certain things out. Communication is key.

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I have no advice as I’m in a similar situation with my husband treating my son from a previous relationship different but I hope it gets better for you!

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He wouldn’t be my husband long. Chris Walker I am so thankful we blended and they all were “ours”.

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Thats really sad :frowning: I’m really sad for those babies.

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Say it. You’re treating the older 2 differently and it’s not right. Change it.

I wouldn’t stand for that from my husband and he won’t stand for it from his family.

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I would just come straight out and tell him what he’s doing.

Talk to him.Not fair to do this…

Just bring it up to him. Tell him how you feel.

Seriously say it how you see it. Men don’t do well understanding if you beat around the bush. We you two have alone time just tell him.

Sounds like she’s been picking horrible baby daddy’s. Smh.

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He wouldn’t be my husband

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He is a right prick, kick him till he really realises the damage he is doing

Definitely tell him. My ex was that way with my oldest now hes an ass with em all including his 2

He won’t notice if you don’t tell him🤷🏻‍♀️

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That’s why the divorce rate for second marriages with kids is over 70%
Most people will never view an “outside” child as their own.

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Why are so many mothers intimidated to stand up to a man for their children?! Seriously! He isn’t even their biological father!. Moms! Stand up for your children, and kick these losers to the curb. I wouldn’t be with a man who treats my children any different.

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Just talk to him in a rational manner! He may not notice what he is doing!!! Just when you and him are away from the children mention it to him and how you feel about it and give him the chance to make it right! If he doesnt then do what you feel you have to weather thats make it up to the other 2 the rest of your life (which it would prob then look like youre doing the same thing with the other 2 as he is his bio) or leave and go from there…

I would sit down and have a serious talk with him. I wouldn’t want any of the children in the home to grow up thinking it’s ok to treat others that way even the child you share together. He may not realize he’s doing it and hopefully that’s the situation. I live in a similar situation where I’m the step parent and I make sure everyone is treated equally, sometimes I even beat myself up making sure xmas gifts are equal to a T as I don’t want anyone feeling any less ever.

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I went through this with my husband. The only difference is, I worked so I would by my kids what they need. I treated his kids like my own.