My husband uses porn to get to me: Advice?

My first husband had a horrible porn addiction to the point it destroyed not only me but also us financially. Now my second husband uses it as a way to hurt me in moments of anger. My self-esteem and value are gone… I will never ever measure up to what is portrayed in porn. Not sure if or how to ever overcome this?

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That’s emotional abuse. He needs counseling or you need to remove yourself from that equation. That’s horrible!

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You are AWESOME…he needs help not you

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Of course you won’t measure up to it because you’re not fake and plastic and if he can’t handle a real women then I suggest you buy him a blow up doll and kick him out .

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That’s not fair for u he needs to get help or u need to leave

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You dont need to measure up to porn. Those are professionals. And ill guarantee you your husband wouldnt be able to get one of those girls no matter how hard he tried. Dont let it bring you down

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Just remind yourself how much more you are than that. A good faithful woman is very hard to find !

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First and foremost, it’s just porn. Your insecurities are your problem and shouldnt be projected on to ANY one. It’s also no one else’s job to make you feel better about yourself. Only you can that! Period. Second he’s a grown ass man and can watch whatever the hell he wants. WHAT HE CANT DO is hurt you in ANY way. But you’re allowing it and need to grow a pair. Put an end to it or it will only get worse.

Don’t let him treat you with such disrespect. You need to leave him! He is mentally sick!

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Sounds like you need another divorce

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WTF, I’d say he’s an asshole. You should really be doing some serious thinking dear.

Buy a vibrator and a Pk of batteries. It’s time for self care.

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He obviously has no respect for you. Move on.

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He has no respect leave!

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Get rid of the husband, problem solved.

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Yes, Get rid of him!

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Come on ladies, porn is porn… it’s glorified and normal to be accepted in a healthy relationship for what it is and not something to be jealous of. If it gets to you that much, turn the tables back on him and start watching it yourself and see how it makes him feel and you never know… YOU might enjoy it.

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Remove yourself if your that insecure.

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How is he using it against you?

Why you worry about porn ? You better than them is all