My husband wants a 3 some: Advice?

My husband wants to have a threesome. We’ve been together for almost six years total, married for almost eight months. We have two children together, one being a newborn. He’s been talking about it for a few days now, it’s a fantasy of his, but he wants to make it a reality. It started when a friend of his told him his wife was bisexual and asked to bring women home for them, and he would let her have side chicks when he was away for long periods of time for work. He tells me it’ll just be one time unless I liked it, tells me it could be with another man or woman, but he would prefer it if it was another woman. At first, it seemed awkward, then we talked about it more, and he told me I could pick the girl and that he would put most of his attention on me. A few days later, and I’m starting to overthink that maybe he wants to do this because he feels “too tied down,” that he just wants to be with another woman. I feel like it’ll take a toll on our marriage and that I won’t want to be as intimate with him cause I won’t feel I was enough to satisfy him alone, that I’ll always have the image of the threesome in the back of my mind and think he’s not enjoying sex between just the 2 of us. We’re only about to both be 22, and I feel like his single friends are making him feel like he hasn’t lived enough to be satisfied and completely ready to settle down. He’s the love of my life, father of my children, and the whole conversation has taken its own toll on my self-esteem. He’s told me it’s okay if I’m not comfortable and we don’t have to do it, that he’s fine with just me, but he still brings it up after saying that… I feel like now he’s going to feel differently without showing it. Like he’s going to go off and cheat on me to satisfy his own cravings. I asked him if it was fair that he only gets to have sex with me, and he says, “well, I mean I chose you, and I chose to marry you,” which doesn’t sound so reassuring…

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I’d do it with another man. :blush:

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yea I’d do it with another man and then leave his ass for wanting to experiment stupid shit :roll_eyes:

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Don’t all men try that don’t fall for it

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Yep anothrr man then watch him change his mind lol

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Try both. There’s nothing wrong with a threesome in my opinion, if you overthink it youre gonna be insecure about it. If he just wanted another woman he could easily go off and sleep with one and cheat, if that was his intention. Everyond has fantasies and its one he wants to experience and share with you. Don’t think of all the negatives surrounding the idea. Keep it discreet, set boundaries, someone you dont know and only wants a one night thing.

Don’t do it. All of your instincts are right. In this life he’s almost guaranteed to cheat anyway and at least u won’t feel stupid knowing u tried for him and he still cheated. We have to do what’s best for us. All this stuff we do trying to keep a man will not work. Plus I all are way too young for him to remain a kept man. You might even wanna leave someday. All I’m saying is put you first

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If you agree once, he will be wanting a threesome on the next, next, next, next and more “next” love making or sex (watever u call it :sweat_smile:) so its safe to say NO and IT’S OKAY TO SAY NO :heart:.

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In my experience, with my ex thr father of my kids. He wanted to experiment with a threesome, so I caved. I didn’t enjoy it. And in all honesty, it ruined the relationship because he was wanting more. He wanted to keep doing mmf, and I didn’t want to because in the end I just felt like a toy or object.

I feel like your feelings are 100% spot on. I’m sorry :pensive:

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There was one case in my country. Three some alright, afterwards, the husband lost his private part.

Mine tried this. Shut that shit down now! If he wanted to sleep with another woman he shouldn’t have decided to spend his life with you. Its okay to say no. And Tell him how you feel. He should understand and shut that down and reassure you. Listen to what he tells you and how he responds. Youll realize if his intentions were just curiosity due to his friends or his desire to sleep with another woman.

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Have you thought about counseling? My husband tried at one point. 🤷🏼‍♀️ it’s hormones and age honestly but the 2 of you need to be COMPLETELY HONEST with each other. Yes you two chose to be together which means uncomfortable conversations, love, fights, irritation but ALL of those can be worked through.

Tbh me and my partner are quite open with this stuff… He chose another man for me it’s great fun and I’ve said well if a women comes along then only fair… I think personally if you bring in another man… Then see how he feels… If he’s cool with It then this is something he is into. Doesnt mean he loves you less it’s something to tick off your bucket list lol

I’d tell him to get lost, he knew that he’d be settling for just you when it comes to marriage, but you should be enough! Don’t worry about him not getting what he wants when you’re trying to keep him happy even as a possibility. Don’t do anything that you’re not comfortable with, if he goes elsewhere then you deserve better, also you might see him as the love of your life but does he feel the same way towards you?

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Absolutely NO !!! Selfish thoughtless bastards .

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I think I biggest question is why?

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If you’re uncomfortable then don’t.

Say no and if he cheats it was not meant to be Never sell your self short for no man God has greater in store for you and He won’t need no one but God and you to sustain him

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Say NO and prepare an exit plan…with the divorce

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