My husband was talking to his ex: Thoughts?

I caught my husband speaking to one of his exes, and I honestly don’t know how to feel. She has always been obsessed with him. Their messages were not sexual or anything, but I still don’t know how to feel about this whole situation. They do not have kids together, and I am pregnant with our first. Am I overreacting? I haven’t said anything to him just yet and don’t know if I am going too. I guess I just needed to vent

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I would bring it up with him. If you are not ok with it let him know

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Unacceptable in my book. There must be something there for them to be sneaking and talking.

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Who sent the first message? Him or her?

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Talk to your boyfriend how you feel and your concerns. Remaining silent gives permission for him to continue with his ex!!

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If he did no wrong darlin I’d let him know it bothers you for sure

You should definitely talk to him. Let him know how you feel. If they don’t have children together there is absolutely no reason to still be in contact.

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He comes home to YOU and as you stated, it wasn’t sexual.

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I talk to a lot of my ex’s. But I build relationships on friendships before they turn into relationships. I’ve dated some people that don’t like I talk to my ex’s and I don’t have time or tolerance for jealousy in a relationship. I’ve never cheated and I never will. If my partner can’t trust me; there’s no relationship there anyway.

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Unacceptable. If yall are in a sincere relationship then he should have no reason to be sneaking behind your back talking to trolls. I would Express your concerns and tell him that it’s not okay and you aren’t comfortable with the idea and then If it happens again that’s where I would draw the line.

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Cut that shit off right now before it escalates. If there are no ties between them like kids then there’s no need for communication. Relationships are tested when a baby comes along n can put strain on ur situation. U dont want him turning to her when things get hard

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I talk to several of my exes on a friend basis. My other half and I have been together 12 years next year not married by choice. With 3 children. If it’s a case of “snooping” to find something. I’d question why you felt the need to do that. If he’s given reason for concern I’d confront him but if not why break a trust barrier?

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Talk to him. What’s the point of holding it in? You’re pregnant and don’t need any stress factors.

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What isit about them having contact that bothers you? I speak to my ex as we have been friends for 15+ years. We didnt work out so we are now happy to just talk normally. Theres nothing more to it and theres nothing between us. I respect him as a person.

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Definitely unacceptable for me, if I were in this situation I’d leave. Absolutely no reason for my man to talk to any of his ex’s :upside_down_face:

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Mans point of view here. You have to bring it up to him. I would definitely try not to overreact about it and turn it into a huge fight. I also can tell you that for the sake of your relationship whether he realizes it or not it is best they stop talking. I would really have a heart to heart conversation about your relationship and having a child together. What I would not do is make threats or ultimatums that will just push him away.

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Depends on the kind of relationship you have. Some don’t allow that, some do. I’m amazed none of you discussed this. Exes should always be a discussion in relationships

People are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex . You said there was nothing sexual in the messages . And why are you snooping through his phone to begin with ?? I’m not trying to come across as a bitch but if you don’t trust him enough to the point you have to go through his phone , you may want to sit down and have an honest conversation.

If there just friends than in wouldn’t trip

Voice your opinion. I’ve been in the same situation. It’s the worst feeling ever! Indescribable

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