My husband watches porn the second I leave the house: Advice?

I’d like to ask… … Is it wrong of me to be upset with my husband because he watches porno secretly every time I leave the house? We don’t watch porn together, and he doesn’t tell me he watches it; I went through his phone while he was drunk last night and seen he’s been watching it ALOT. Our sex life has been almost non-existent for a long time, I was thinking he was cheating. IDK how to feel about the porn but I know I’m not happy, especially with the secretary of it. Please give me some advice.

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If its interferring then there is a problem. Sit down and talk to him

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Go to the strip club with him. Watch with him

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If hes doing it alot, that’s a red flag

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If he’s not getting it at home he will find it somewhere else. Talk to him.

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Since it sounds like it may be interfering with your sex life its a problem. But you have to sit down and have a discussion about it. Maybe he is having some not so manly problems and is coping by using x films. I don’t think you have to watch it with him. And it can be healthy. But doesn’t sound like he’s doing it in a healthy way. But its not the end of the world. I wouldn’t be too upset just try to get to the bottom of it without completely freaking out.

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Dont go into his phone would be my first advice try to get him to open up about it without putting him under pressure .he may have an addiction to watching it for other reasons remember trust always works on both ways try suggesting talking to a professional together to find out reasons why

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Well… I’d rather him watch porn than cheat xx

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It could definitely be an addiction for him… or it just may be what he’s doing to satisfy himself since y’all aren’t intimate…Maybe just throw some on yourself one night try and spice it up for him and see if helps with your sex life.

Could be an extreme porn addition, Some people don’t realize it but watching too much porn can ruin, your actual sex life by not being able to stop thinking about porn, even when you’re not watching it.
You’re spending increasing amounts of time watching porn,
You watch porn at work, in public spaces, and in social situations where you could be seen.
You begin neglecting your responsibilities and even sleep to watch porn.
Without porn, sex is not enjoyable
You insist that your romantic partner watch with you or act out fantasies even if they don’t want to.
Hiding your porn-watching habits from your partner, family, or loved ones.
Feeling ashamed, guilty, or depressed about your porn habits.
You can’t stop watching despite the harm it is causing or has caused to your work life, social life, romantic and other relationships.
When someone asks you to cut back, you get upset.
You tried to quit but were unsuccessful.

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First it is NEVER “wrong” to feel a certain way about something.

Just because others might not doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

If it makes you uncomfortable that should be all that matters. It’s a video, that shouldn’t ever come before your needs.

If it does, there is a problem.

I have a few friends who are extremely uncomfortable with it, for a variety of reasons. Some religious, some just flat out don’t like it.

“It makes me uncomfortable” should be enough for a spouse.

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1- dont go through his phone
2- u clearly dont trust him
3- if hes not getting it at home then he WILL go elsewhere
4- id rather my fella watch porn n bash his bishop than go elsewhere.
its normal
for fellas to watch porn

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It’s not a problem until he isn’t having sex with you.

Have a discussion with him and get to the root of it. He needs to be showing you some love and attention. The fact it’s being all given to that is a no-no.

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Is your sex life non existent because of you? Maybe he’s watching it for a release. Talk to him. Maybe try watching it with him. It’s not just men who watch porn. Women just won’t admit it. Lighten up. And yes my husband watches it and no I don’t care. I’ll watch it with him. And our sex life is outstanding! Have some fun but talk to him about it not every one else. Especially Facebook.

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Bruh its porn. Hes not ever going to meet those girls

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Just because some women are ok with porn, doesn’t mean other women have to be. If you are not ok with it, then those are your feelings. Maybe an open and honest conversation might help. Sometimes couples get stuck into a routine and loose sight of making time and putting effort towards the relationship.

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You have to tell him you’re not okay with it and you have to stick to it no matter what. You actually have to make him understand that he needs to decide if he wants to continue watching porn or if he can be happy with just his one woman in real life. He has to choose you, and make that clear, and then give you all the transparency you need, since he took advantage of your trust.

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You said your sex life is almost nonexistent… If he’s not getting it from you, he’s gonna find a way to relieve himself. Better than actually going out and cheating. Relationships aren’t just sex, but it is necessary. I’d definitely talk to him about it. Don’t make him feel bad about it, but tell him what you’re feeling. Communication is key in any relationship, and both of you are lacking in that area.

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There are ways to help!

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Why is your sex life non existent? Does he try and you refuse or?