My husband will not touch me and I think he might be cheating: Advice?

Sorry long post, so I have a situation. I have two kids under the age of 3 with my husband. My body doesn’t look like it used to, but my husband won’t touch me unless I beg him to, and he masturbates all the time. We have sex, maybe twice a month. On top of that, I’ve found him hiding social media accounts where he’s adding half-naked women. I found him talking to an old friend I know he’s had feelings for and knows I’ve had a problem with. He’s a good provider, and he’s gotten better with our kids, but when it comes to me, he only tries if people are looking. IDK what to do. I love him but stayed for the kids, and I feel like drowning sometimes. I think he’s cheating but can’t prove it and has a history of lying about Everything. IDK what to do Please keep anonymous

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Start working on yourself. Not for him but for you and the kids. Get positioned so that you can leave him. Even if he isn’t cheating, spending your life with a man who you cannot trust is no way to live.

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Sorry you are going through this. It is the worse feeling in the world. It is incredibly hard but, dont worry about him, work on you. When you are more confident, more healthy, more happy he will come back around and if he doesnt at least you will be the best version of you. :heart:

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Do not EVER stay for the kids, get out!!! I filed for divorce days ago and should have 17 years ago but no, now two kids later…smh…

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I’m sorry but I think he is😢 I’ve been through it.

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if he’s already lying so much & hiding all that, there’s no doubt he’s cheating. & I believe you know that, deep down… if you’ve tried everything you can think of to make your relationship better, it may just be time to leave. I don’t believe in staying together just for kids, they can sense tension, & they usually know most of the issues y’all try to hide, & then it’s no good for anybody in the household.

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Those were exactly the things my X was doing, put a tracker on his car.

I found he was cheating… im sorry for your pain.

I know what your going through with the lying all the time. If he’s cheating he will be caught. If he’s hiding social media accounts with other women that’s already cheating. And if he’s had feelings for another women and he’s talking to her that’s cheating. And if he doesn’t touch you in months that’s odd. I’ve been through similar and I’ve caught several strange occurrences. I’d check his phone I’d do what you can to find out but every cheater gets caught. It’s up to you if you decide to deal with what he’s doing or leave. I had to decide myself and we have no kids together.

If he’s hiding social media accounts, he’s definitely doing stuff he shouldn’t be doing.

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Darling girl - sooner or later you have to see your worth… this man doesnt deserve you !!

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Never beg, he will find that very unattractive and push you away even further, making you feel less desired, play very very hard to get if you have to…arrange a girls night, get glammed up and make him see what he’s missing… don’t let him touch you though!!

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He is cheating on you, wake up

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Do u have a laptop? Set the webcam up cover the little light. Leave it where he spends most of his time.

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If you don’t trust him and you’re having to check what he’s doing to find all this, there’s nothing left, end it. You have no trust and begging is probably pushing him away as well. You’re not happy and he clearly isn’t either so just do yourself and him a favor and pack your stuff. Kids don’t need to be in a crappy environment

You already know that he is not committed to you in anyway if hes doing all of those things so the real question is why are you lowering yourself just to be with him? You know you can leave whenever you want I suggest that you do

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Get legal advice and move on.After you set some boundaries the jerk will come crawling back.

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Just because you love him doesn’t mean you have to be together. If I was you I would straight out ask him what’s up? if he’s not attracted to you anymore then maybe you guys should just go your own ways… find yourself a real man honey! God bless!:heavy_heart_exclamation:

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Get rid of his ass, its NOT GONNA GET BETTER, ONLY WORSE AND IT WILL DAMAGE YOUR CHILDREN, I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE!!!

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Don’t throw away your beautiful relationship just because you think he’s cheating. First of all work on your self . And stop looking for something that isn’t there or u may end up finding what you do not want

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