My husband won't let me get my stuff from his house: Advice?

I and my still current husband have been separated for a little over a year now, and we lived in an apartment when I caught him cheating on me once we both moved out of the apartment I had to go live with a friend with our child, so I had dropped off some of our daughter’s toys bc I didn’t have enough room where I was staying. Well, i now have enough room to take back what I had him store in his house the problem is though is he won’t answer me back when I call or text him I think its bc he has a new girlfriend. I have made multiple attempts to call him and try to get in contact with him, but nothing has worked. My question is, how should I go about getting her stuff back from him. Should I get the police involved or should I just go over there, but then also his girlfriend doesn’t like me much since we were all in high school together and she bullied me a lot, so I don’t want to get into a fight as well.

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If it is just toys and not anything of real value, I say let it go. If you made it a year without the stuff, you can probably survive without it. No matter why he’s avoiding you, its childish, but to continue trying when he clearly doesn’t care seems like running into the same brick wall IMO.

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Is this stuff only some of your daughters toys? Won’t she need them when she’s there as well? If it’s just the toys (that’s what it sounds like from the post) I would say not worth the hassle or stress of calling the cops to get them back. Also does he see your child could you talk then?

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If you cant let the stuff go get the police involved. They will go there with you. This way your sure to get your things without any problems. And it sounds like hes trying to cause problems. Better to be safe and not get arrested

It’s nothing of value. Pick your battles. I get the wanting them back thing but I don’t think it’s worth all of your stress!!

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I don’t know if the police will do anything. They may just show up to make sure nothing escalates but I don’t think they will force him to give you anything from his house. But you can try having them there if you think it will help.

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Let it go unless it’s pics of your family and your child let it go

Take the police with you to go get your stuff

Well if there is no protection order, it’s your house too, go get your stuff. I had a protective order and I had to put all his things out side and the lawyer had a list he had to pick it up from the porch when I wasn’t home.

I vote for neither of the options you presented. Forget it, replace it if you have to, and move on.

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Just leave it there, if she’s going to visit her Father she’s going to need toys over there

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You’ve been apart over a year- unless you paid storage fees and have it in writing he agreed to store the stuff for you it’s legally his- it’s considered that you abandoned it

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Just move on buy her new stuff

Let it go hes had it a year. Hes not a storage unit

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The police will only say it’s a civil matter which you will only get in court.

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Its replaceable. Let him have it! It aint worth the drama. Now you know how he rolls. 💁

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Personally I would let it go. Very proud that you stood up for yourself and left his cheating ass. Just let him keep the stuff. Don’t waste another minute on him.

Cut your losses. Start fresh. Police won’t do anything and don’t start a confrontation

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Is it really that big of a deal? Replace them. It’s been a year. Let go and move on.

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Its the child’s sruff. Leave it at her dads and replace it. She needs stuff there as well

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