My husbands ex is allowing her boyfriend to sleep in the same bed as their daughter: Advice?

My husbands’ ex is allowing their 8 year old daughter to sleep in bed with her boyfriend. How do we approach the situation as it feels uncomfortable and inappropriate. We don’t want to hurt feelings or start a war- but we want our child safe.

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Husband, baby’s dad, needs to have a talk/walk with boyfriend.

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Ummm definitely start a war. That’s beyond inappropriate and needs to be put to end- YESTERDAY!

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There is no reason a 8year old needs to sleep with someone , especially the mothers boyfriend. The ex and her bf need a good knock in the head if you ask me.

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Better safe than sorry.
If I were the husband a.k.a father of the 8 year old girl, I’d rather have my girl live with me than with my ex wife coz my ex wife is not thinking very well to allow that thing which is obviously inappropriate and dangerous

Assuming they mean she sleeps in bed with mum and bf ?? If its just bf and child I’d definitely be starting a war , if its all 3 explain to mum that you don’t feel comfortable with the sleeping situation and is there anything else they could do , does step daughter sleep with step mum and dad ?

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Why isn’t he sleeping in the bed with the mother? :thinking: Call DCF and keep the child in your custody

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Call child protective services asap please. You could be the one to help this 8 year old. Please call.

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My son’s father and I had this talk because he aloud his gf to lay in bed with them.
I spoke to him and he was a jerk. So I spoke to her and she and I agreed that laying all together to watch movie is one thing but she didn’t need to be in bed with them. She spoke to my x about finally getting my son in his bed. Thank you Lord.

Safeguard it immediately even if it has to be done anonymously

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Yea thats a big NOPE. Id tell them point blank…Its ridiculously inappropriate and it stops yesterday. Go to court if you have to. Theyre grooming her…stop it bwfore something life changing happens. Protect her.

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Oh HELL NO. BIG EFFING NO.

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Speak with the ex
Ask questions before jumping to conclusion.
Could be a number of different reasons as to why!
Not everything is sinister!

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Start a war, are you kidding me!
This needs to be reported to DCF this is dangerous

Very inappropriate!!!

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I think the phuck not! CPS!!!

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Call the cops.asshole…

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Talk to the daughter maybe he’s doing something to her that is 100% inappropriate and if it was my kid I would tell them that needs to stop happening and if it continues you’ll call the police and she won’t be able to stay the night that sounds to suspicious and uncomfortable

Hold on. How long has the boyfriend been in the picture? And is the mother in the bed as well? (Like baby girl is crawling into bed with them both?) This is too vague to say anything or give any advice.

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What u mean we don’t wanna hurt feelings or start a war?.. ur children are the 1st thing u go to war for… stupidity at its finest…:roll_eyes:

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