My husbands family constantly comes over and are overbearing: Advice?

Honestly tell them what’s up!! Enough is enough!! If you don’t do anything now it will continue and possibly get worse… What are they gonna do not come around? lol :joy:

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Answer the door with a handbag, keys and phone in your hand, " oh sorry, I’m literally on my way out. Perhaps call to see if I’m not busy if you want to come by" then leave. Have a coffee somewhere. Also, as much as it sucks, keep the doors locked and such, if a straight forward " I’m busy right now, you’ll have to call before you come over in future" with a door closed on them, doesn’t work. I also agree with answering near naked. Or talk / play on the phone while they’re there. Don’t make conversation. Uncomfortable works :rofl::rofl:

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Keep the doors locked. If they want to stand there and knock repeatedly just ignore them.

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If he is not willing to put you and the kids 1st and share his life with you without his family intruding then you shouldn’t be with him.

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The best piece of advice I can give you comes from my own experience with my monster in laws.

Your husband won’t take notice to anything they do wrong, until you completely stop reacting/responding. You have to stop reacting with anger every time they do something to hurt you or something just inappropriate.

My husband and I have been together 12 years, married 6, 3 kids. It took 6 years for me to finally realize that they weren’t worth the angry outburst trying to stand up for myself. I quit engaging at all with them.

Now here we are 6 years later, I haven’t had to deal with them in my life since. He cut them completely off once he realized what was actually happening. My story is much, much worse than what you’ve described, this is the only thing I found that actually worked. Be nice and try hard even when you don’t want to, even when they don’t.

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Its your house as much as his and you need to feel happy in your own home id lock the doors and ignore them when then come over put music on loud. Your husband needs to tell his family

Cuss them out🤷🏽‍♀️ It’s already disrespectful to pop up at someone’s house without calling but then they just walk through whatever door is open??? Oh hell no! If your husband doesn’t want to put his family in check, you have EVERY right to do it yourself. That’s your house too.

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I went through this with my husband and for 10 yrs we lived right next door to them problems and gossip etc everyday something new and now after 12 yrs together and 10 yrs married we are getting a divorce

Good luck with that one

Leave tell him you need time away from his family take vacation

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That’s not acceptable.

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Oh hell no! I will never ever answer the door unless you tell me you are stopping by. Sorry not sorry. The rage that would go through me if someone tried to come in without an invite! Boyyyy!

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Get your family to do the same thing and see if he likes it :joy::joy::joy:

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Give him an ultimatum. Taking Actions or your leaving him

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Mamas Uncut tho Daunce - Wtaf!!

I would go over his head and speak to his family. Sit them down and explain that calling before coming over is called respect. Raising kids is you and your husbands life. Stand up and be strong. If you don’t they will continue to intrude.

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If he refuses to put his foot down with his family and refuses to move for you and his children take your kids and move with them if he doesn’t want to come he can stay where he is alone.

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I’d call the law as soon as they entered without knocking. Maybe then they’ll stop coming over unannounced.
But id also leave. For good. If your husband hasn’t said anything to his family yet, he isn’t going to. He would rather it piss you off, than put them in their place and pissing them off. He has zero respect for you, if he did this would not be an issue.
Definitely run from that!

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Tell him it’s got to stop I want to buy a house and move away they are disrespecting you

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Some people shoot people that walk in their house unannounced, put a sign up then they can’t say you didn’t warn them

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