My husbands family demands we spend Sundays with them: Advice?

Every Sunday, as a “ law, “ we have to spend the day with my husband’s parents and relatives. I’m getting stressed out about that because I would like to spend at least a Sunday at home with my husband and son as a family and have fun. I talked to my husband about this, but I don’t think he pays attention to my concerns. Also, he keeps making plans without asking me first, like inviting over his family at our house with no notice. Am I overreacting or should I be mad about it?

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Maybe you could suggest going each fortnight instead

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You run your life not them…

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Your not over reacting at all. What would happen if you chose to stay home for once??

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I’m assuming this is something that has been going on for a while because it sounds like the family tradition to be together every Sunday. Maybe if you say that we will not be spending 1 or 2 Sundays a month with the family so we can do our own thing they can get used to getting in the habit of not expecting you. Most likely you married into a family that was already functioning this way you may have to slowly wean them off of the habits of feeling like they are entitled to your time as much

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pack the kid(s), make reservations, and if husband wants to go, he’s welcome to get in the car when you’re ready to drive away. If he invited his family, then he can cancel them, leave them hanging in your front yard while you’re at the restaurant, or stay home and entertain them with his own cooking and cleaning up after. If you don’t want to be with them, tell him so and then act on it. If you choose to continue your doormat status, don’t be surprised when everyone else wipes their boots on you.

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Nope your not overreacting. You should give him a dose of his own medicine with your family or friends :joy: guaranteed he won’t like it very much

I let myself be dragged to occasions that I didn’t want to attend and allowed myself to be angry and resentful. No more, I stay home when I want to

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When they come over stay in your room n tell them u not feeling well :grin::grin::grin:

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Let him go if he wants! You can make that YOUR day. Agree to come say once a month.

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firts no one demands you a *** they can ask you nicely if u can would and love to spend with those ***

Your husband is a mommy’s boy. He cares more for his family Than for the family you are forming. His apparent ignoring of your concerns proves he will not change and this is disrespectful. To you and your family . This “ law” of being with his family every Sunday is good gift the kidz but not for you. The original intent illustrates in Genesis 2:24. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother , and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh . Recommend marital counseling and bring the matter to the light. It may mean that you exercise the idea of not going. What is he going to do?? Do not go. He goes alone !! Let those whom you trust knownif your situation and have your support. Simply make the decisions not to go . If he will not listen to you , do not go. You says he invites his family without consulting you . Let them know they are not welcome at that time . It may mean filing for divorce , get your ducks in order. If he cares more for his family than you then leave him to them . Be willing to take a stand and speak your mind.

… I’d laugh and carry on with my family. They can make the suggestion…but I don’t have to follow.

If your husband wants to spend time with.his family let.him u.personally don’t feel.its necessary.to spend every.single sunday.with them tell him no I’m not up To going.id like to stay.home tonight.let.him go your.not stopping.him make this an alimatem good luck

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Confront them call a Sunday meeting and tell them how you feel the sooner the better dont forget you also got rights as you are the CEO of the house my wife always pulls the CEO thing on me😂

Demand? Its Law?? Don’t think so!! You are an adult…Compromise with him. There is a whole control thing going on there. Better stand up for yourself now or they will continue…

Next sunday, go over there and curl into the nearest bed. Doing this enough let’s everyone know your feelings.

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Don’t continue this pattern if it’s not something you want to do. This happened to me and eventually I was expected to be with them on EVERY occasion. My In laws would not let their grown married children have a life… my husband kissed their ass and neglected my wants and needs to please his Momma… thus he is a spoiled little narc…yuk

I can see this from your partners families side, as a child we spent every Sunday at nanas house, we would always have lunch and sometimes we would even stay into dinner. They were the best memories of my childhood to be honest. BUT I also see it from your side as it can be bloody exhausting going out. I agree with others, try to discuss the option of only doing it once a month, but don’t take it away completely.

Nope you’ve got every right to be upset !! First off it’s both your home and should be respected /consideration plans of company over !!! Secondly I’d make perfectly clear if he’s not listening about going to in laws Every weekend NO do not get in car NO don’t get children ready to go anywhere Sunday ! If you’ve asked him to not do this every weekend it’s time to let him know you’re not including yourself anymore !!!

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