My in-laws constantly overstep their boundaries: Thoughts?

Hi! I’m a first-time mommy, and we live with my in-Laws. They usually try to overstep their boundaries like the GMA answering to mama or them trying to go over my word, but today I found out she’s trying to make my son walk. I was deeply hurt because that’s something my husband and I are supposed to do, and I told my hubby that, and he doesn’t get how much that hurt me. Am I right to feel this way, or is this something that’s no big deal?

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He’s not going to walk in a day. It’s a process. You can all work on it together.

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The whole family should share in those moments. Take all the help you can get.

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Work on it together as a family. Nothing wrong with that in my opinion. It will take months before he walks. God bless :revolving_hearts::revolving_hearts::revolving_hearts:

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How old is the baby?

You are not in the wrong to feel that way at all… I have inlaws that over step in every little thing pretty much. My opinion your husband should back you up and speak with his family about taking a step back

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you have every right to be upset, I would be too. I know how much it bugs me when my own mother makes the odd comment, so living day in day out with someone trying to take charge is wrong. sit her down and gently tell her how you’re feeling and hopefully she will back off a bit xx

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I’d be a bit more appreciative of having help most don’t have that privilege. Your lil one will not walk in hours nor a day I’m sure once you’re hm you can take over to show your lil one as well. Simply speak to your in laws you do live with her. I’m surprise of how many still live with their in laws yet complain about the smallest issues most would be grateful for.

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Be an adult. Move out.

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You live with them, it’s going to happen. If you are emotionally affected that much, use it as motivation to get into a better living situation so you don’t have the help you will desperately wish you once had.

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You are living with your enlaws…you obviously needed help. Except it. You don’t get to choose the help when you live with other people. Idc if you’re paying rent or whatever.
Move if you don’t like it!

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You have a right to feel that way. The solution is to move out. When you raise children in other people’s houses they have more say. My brother and his daughter recently moved in with me and he gets mad because he WILL NOT discipline his 8 year old in anyway. I do. She cut the whiskers off my kitten and ruined my hardwood floors (I rent so this is a huge deal). He also wont make her do chores. I do. He gets mad but won’t say anything because he knows I’ll kick him out.

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Get your own place, then you can set all the boundaries you want. As for the walking just tell her you appreciate all the help but you need to do these things with your child.

Move out if you don’t like it. Their house, their rules.

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This is a all around thing. You birthed. Him but family is able to be hands on. If u get this emotional over things like this is too much. And you’re gunna get butthurt a lot if u don’t open your mind and heart just a little bit more. Congratulations on your baby you have a village now to help and to love that baby seems normal to me for grams to live in them and want to help teach. If that’s a problem

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All of you live together and if she is watching and helping with him then she isn’t wrong for encouraging and helping him to walk. I’d be more upset with her going over what you say, but honestly your living in their house. If you don’t want or need the help then move out on your own.

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Us grand parents just want to love and help . Look at them lovingly too and it will be easier for you all.

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Husband should back you up. In-laws should realize they are the grandparents and not the parents, they need to step back because it is important with your first especially to see the first of everything. May be time to find your own place if you want boundaries in place

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It takes a village to raise a child. If he’s ready to walk then let whoever’s with him help him learn. It’s not about you it’s about the kid.

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There is no guarantee that a child takes their first steps in front of the parents, it will happen when it happens. If you really feel that uncomfortable with her and boundaries, why don’t you get your own place? Raising children is not necessarily a job for just the parents, many people would appreciate that they have a support system to help with the kids.

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