My five-month-old is dealing with “stranger anxiety,” but towards family members, he doesn’t usually see often. We can go out in public to restaurants and stores, and he is totally fine. However, when he sees my in-laws, he will scream and cry and becomes inconsolable. I try to be sensitive to him, and I do not force him to be held by any of them or interact if he’s upset. I do try to give him some space. However, they seem to be uncomfortable and upset about it. He’s been doing this since he was four months old. Any tips on how to help him feel more comfortable around them? Also, how long does this phase typically last?
Tell them to get over it. U cant force a child to hug someone they dont want to
The problem lies with them for being upset with what an infant does. Stand your ground.
Babies sense evil? Lol. I pass mine off on purpose to family I trust. So she doesn’t freak. Rarely does so when she does I do pay attention
Tell them to see him more!
My son is 2 and only just liking people
Try spending more time together
Does the baby only react like that with them?
My daughter did that to my mom for a few weeks. She sees her weekly but was just a short lived faze. Honestly its a good thing that your kid is starting to be wary of people he doesnt really know. If they are so upset about it they should come around more often. So your child knows them as family, not as strangers.
My son is turning 1 in 5 days and he still does that and has bad stranger anxiety which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. My son does is to ALL of my family members and any stranger. He is only okay with mom dad brother and sister … sometimes he’s fine with my mom but other times he freaks out with her too… I’m sure our little babes will grow out of that. Tell them to give him time. My son is like this because i dont really see my family very often for him to feel that comfortable. Mommy will always be the safe haven. Good luck
See him more… Video chats are a thing… I don’t force my kids to be held by ppl, that’s not fair to them.
I don’t have any tips but I totally understand how that is. All three of mine have been like that. My oldest son was about 3 when he stopped being like that. My 2 1/2 year old and 1 year old still do this. I have never forced them to be held or hug anyone. They just stop when they are ready. Good luck with the in-laws.
My 2 yr old is like that stil altho he doesn’t get upset but he puts his head down n won’t talk 2 no1 he will go off and play but he won’t talk them but wil wave bye and get upset wen we have 2 go x
They need to grow up.
Video chat is a great option if you can’t see them more until the baby gets used to them xx
Babies pick up on bad vibes as cliche as it sounds, and he must be picking up on something from them he doesn’t like. Don’t force him. Have them approach him little by little and let him get familiar if that doesn’t work then they’re just gonna have to let him come to them in his own time. My 9 month old is the same way. Doesn’t know his paternal grandparents and cries when his grandpa tries hold him. They laugh it off but I can tel by the sound of his cries it’s really hurting him. Can’t stand those baby’s cries! Lol good luck!
I hate it when they do that. Show up once every 6 weeks, but get offended when the kids don’t jump right into their arms?
He’ll come around eventually. Your job is to worry about advocating for your son not ppl who are offended by babies not liking them. It’s early but starting reading about consent and children. Your child should never feel like he has to hug, be held or kissed by anyone.
If they dont want him to act like that towards them, then they need to come around more often and ease into it. Not outright just try to take him. My daughter was like that with my in laws too, we dont get to see them a lot since we all work different schedules, but my MIL has found a trick to get my girl to interact with her. She will sit in the floor at a small distance and talk to her at first, then start offering up toys and showing her how to play with them and her dogs. After about an hour or so, my daughter will let her pick her up and hold her for a little while. Shes much older than your son though, shes 16 months now. But shes been working at this for months too. It takes a little while, but eventually your son will get used to them. Dont force it, just let it come naturally.
I have children who are older and I don’t force them to hug or interact with anyone they don’t want to. I’m not going to teach them to give up their space just to please others. We don’t do that as adults, So why do we expect our kids to do it?
My daughter’s 2.5 and still is this way
Take him around more often or have them come over. Then maybe he’ll get used to them.