My in-laws make it a point to try and cause problems in my marriage. Mostly my mother-in-law. Both my husband and I know this, and he keeps telling her to leave our lives alone and out of her mouth because she likes to gossip. She’s one of those people who claim to hate gossip but can’t mind her own business and makes it a point for her to be in the absolute middle of anyone’s problems. My husband keeps telling her to leave our marriage alone, but she always finds something to complain about. (Most of the time it’s me.) We have created a beautiful family together, and everyone else is supportive of that in his family except for my mil because of my ethnicity. She’s been trying to break us apart since day one, and we are both sick of it. I have tried and tried again to allow her to change and be apart of our life, but it’s to the point where she’s STILL trying to break us up. I’ve given her chances to check on our children, but she hasn’t. She never checks upon us but gets angry when she finds out someone else knows more about our children than she does. She thinks she’s entitled to everything because she’s their grandmother. I am super stressed out and pregnant again, so it’s not good for my unborn baby or me. What would you do in a situation like this? Am I wrong for wanting to cut her out of our lives completely?
My mil is exactly like that. So we finally cut her out completely. He hasnt spoke to his mother for a year now and he loves it that way
I banned y MIL from my house. My husband is free to visit her at her house but she will never step foot in mine. She’s insulted me too many times.
Nope. I don’t even see mine and she’s never even tried to meet my 17 month old daughter. Not worth it at all.
You need to set a healthy boundary. Something along the lines of “when you do this and that, it causes this and that. If you continue to do this you will be asked to leave our home and you will not be invited back”
Sometimes people are not good for us and sometimes those people are related to us. But it is your responsibility to set the boundaries that protect your mental health and the health of your marriage. If people cannot respect them they do not have a place in your life.
Cut her out. You’re gonna be the bad guy either way
No that’s not wrong to have feelings like that but if that’s what your husband wants then he needs to take the lead on that. It’s ok to have boundaries that do not entitle her to know let alone be involved in everything that goes on in YOUR house. Tough situation it’s hard to not let it get the best of you but stand your ground and she will eventually have to live with it.
Hahahahah! Been there done that and cut them out of my life 10 years ago! Smartest best decision ever. I don’t know what I ever did to make them hate me so much but they did. The amount of stress was ridiculous. I didn’t want my kids growing up around that mess. They thank me for it. Good luck. I remember how miserable it was.
I excommunicated my MIL from our entire life…the woman is batshit crazy and I was over it after 9 yrs…she gone
Cut her out! Not worth the stress. If your husband agrees she’s the problem then it should be easy to do. Maybe she will grow up in the future. Maybe not
Cut her out. My husband did and now we have peace
Wow I can totally relate to this!
luckily I don’t have to deal with an interfering MIL anymore!
Me and my now ex partner are no longer together.
I cut my mother off completely in order to keep my family happy… the less she knows the less she can gossip about
Agree, cut her out. You don’t need that toxic energy in your life or your kiddos lives. We cut MIL out over 4 years ago and we do not miss the drama!
My ex mother in law was the devil, she literally would invite women to her house an encourage him to cheat on me or leave me. She let his side chick he had for 3 years spend the night with him at her house, go to concerts with them, hang out by her pool and get drunk while I’m at work. She cussed me, called DHS on me for no reason, literally wanted my kids and her son to herself and told me to kill myself or die in a fire, blah blah blah. Long story short, we divorced. just reading your post made me cringe thinking about that bitch and how my life was for 10+ years dealing with her and her hurricane of a son.
Oh my god this is word for word my life right now!! I read it to my husband and he thought I wrote it out. I’m sorry you’re going through this. You might just have to cut her loose!! Women like her can’t change, I know because I’m dealing with one right now.
Your husband needs to just put his foot down. My MIL was the same way and after two years of us having issues, he told her that she could either accept that I am his wife and treat me as such or she has no business in our lives. That was July of 2011 and we haven’t had to deal with her since. We see her, on occasion, across a room a the certain “family” gatherings we choose to go to. There is no fixing someone like this. The healthiest thing to do for your family is cut her off. My husband has no regrets. She whines once in a while to his sister and he tells her, she chose this and she can either accept our terms or she can stay gone.
Cut her out completely u don’t need toxic relationships in ur family. Apperently she doesn’t care due to fact u both have told her so no more talking take action and finally have peace.
Cut her completely dont put up with that
I had to cut not only my MIL out but the rest of his family because they ALL act the same. Too much drama. Our lives are so much better now. !