My kids are upset with the fact that I switched to full time: Advice?

I have been working part-time at a place for almost 4yrs. Rarely ever is there an opening for full-time there. Well, recently we have had an opening for a full-time opening & it was offered to me & I am super excited about it. I accepted & have been working the full-time hours this week… my kids, though, are struggling. They are used to my husband being gone & being home a short time in the evenings. They are used to me being home more. My son is 5 & has ADHD & already struggles with change & my daughter is 2 & has separation anxiety. I’m torn on what to do. My boss did tell me I could go back to part-time if I need to before she hires someone else. This is a hob I’ve always wanted, but my kids are more important. What would you mamas do???

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Girl no. Stay full time. They will live

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Change is inevitable. They need to learn that. You sound like a loving, understanding mother, so I’m sure they’ll be fine. Allow a little adjustment time…

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I would definitely keep the full time job. It’s healthy for you AND them. The kiddos will adjust over time!

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I would stick with the full time position an just help my kids with adjusting to the new normal

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My suggestion is go back to part time, your kids love you and want you! They’ll only be small for so long and not want u around much one day…they’ll be another opportunity for FT in the future. Just my opinion :slightly_smiling_face:

Stay working full time. They will adjust in time. Better for them both in the long term.

I would keep the full time job! It’ll be hard the first bit but they will get used to it!

My advice is to do what is beat for you. If you could survive comfortably without being full time then go back to part time. If you guys needs the money or want to save up money then stay full time for a while. It’s what is gonna work best for your family. The kids will adjust either way. Just make sure to spend time with them when you can.

It will take time to adjust but they will. Give it a few weeks.

Stay full time they will adapt

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Stay full time. And have them appreciate working more. And doing what you need for your children.

If you don’t need the money I would say part-time. You’re still able to have employment history because you are employed but also getting to spend more time with your kids while they’re little. With that being said if you DO need the money then you shouldn’t feel guilty about working full time. Only you and your husband can decide what’s best for your situation.

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It will benefit them In the long run. You’ll regret it if you pass it up. :sob:

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They will adjust to your new “normal” just different right now!

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Go back to part time, separation anxiety is real and damaging in the long run to your child. Coming from a mom of a teenager who experienced that when she was little coming and going to & from dad’s house every other weekend.

They have to be able to adapt to changes in life, they will be okay, it’ll take some time to adjust. Keep your full time job if that’s what you want…

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I would take the full time and give the kids time to see how they adjust. They are important but so is money to take are of them

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I’m going to say keep the job. Change is part of life if you dont show them that then they will struggle with it without u there. Honestly I think I would rather watch/help my children struggle with change then them doing change without any help on how to coop. N PLUS this is something you want to do. Yes my children are my whole world. But mommy needs things…mommy has to also do what she wants n loves for her self as well as her children. My opinion congratulations on the new job offer!

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If you need the money, they will both get used to it! It’s a change and with any change,it takes time to get used to! If you dont need the money,then by all means, spend the time with ur kids

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