My kids don't feel welcome around the guy I am dating: Advice?

I have a real issue and just wanted another take on this, I have two kids from a previous abusive relationship which I got out off a now 12&14 yr old, after several years on the push of my kids I went back into the market and found a nice guy everything was fine and my kids and him got along for the most part, I suddenly found myself pregnant with twins my pregnancy was difficult but my partner started making rude comments towards my kids of their race and their father and little things here and there which crawled under my skin, I at some point wished I wasn’t expecting at all, fast forward my partner has continued these side remarks and has put a divider between me and my older kids they don’t feel welcome when he is around and he has told me he dosnt want my older kids holding the babies which I don’t pay no mind, has anyone ever had an issue like this where the true colours of a person comes out when their children come I don’t know what to do I want to leave him, I would be happier but going at it alone again with two more kids is just scaring me I feel really depressed at times about all of this and just don’t know what to do, he is relatively kind to me and loving to his babies he dosnt dislike my older kids but can’t stand the fact who their father is because of what he did to me and says when he sees my older one it reminds him of my x

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It sounds to me like you shouldn’t be with this guy. You should always choose your children before any man. Regardless of if he’s the father of your twins. He needs to learn to be a part of your family and if he can’t include your children in that that he needs to not be a part of it. That’s just my personal opinion if it was my kids that dude would be gone.

Thank you next!!! Leave! No one should make your kids feel that way smh

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Your kids should always come first and you should leave him he sounds like a real asshole. No one should ever treat children that way under any circumstances. Get your children and make a run for it because it will only get worse.

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Don’t stay with a guy just because it’ll make things “easier “ especially if he’s being verbally abusive to your other children.

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Nope leave him!! Your kids come first.

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And ur still there wow no wonder the older ones feel left out ur kids should come first before any pathetic male carnt even believe this is a real post :see_no_evil::see_no_evil: poor kiddies!!

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you shouldn’t even have to ask this question. your kids should come before anyone even if you are having his kids . hes rude and they dont like him and they are uncomfortable. i would never let anyone say anything like that to my children they would be gone straight away

I didn’t even need to read the whole paragraph. This guy is making rude comments to your KIDS?!?!?! the answer is obvious. Get the fuck out of this relationship :bangbang::bangbang::bangbang:

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It’s time to leave
You have done it on your own before you can do it again . It will only get worse when the new babies come .

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Hard to get over these kind of hurtles. Family is forever while men may come and go.

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Mama you are your children’s shelter. If you don’t find the strength to protect them from racism in their own home, who will? I know it’s scary, but the worst case scenario of this is even scarier because children are vulnerable and racists who target children are cruel, sometimes dangerous. Reach out to your local shelters, even if you don’t want to stay with them, they can connect you to community resources that can help you forge your new path.

I also recommend seeking therapy, because something inside you is attracted to abusive men and you need to find out what, and work through it so that you aren’t as fooled by wolves in sheep clothing anymore.

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U need to leave if hes making comments to your kids that make you or them feel uncomfortable that’s it he needs to go

Kids come first, if they dont feel welcome, then he has to GO!!!

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Sorry but they are your kids, you should make them feel welcome, get rid of him, if he’s making comments about their race then he is being racially abusive to your children and you are clearly allowing it as he is still with you! Your children come first, get rid of him. Yes it sucks but your children don’t need to be abused in their own home and made to feel awkward

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You have to make the break. The kids come first, all of them. You deserve someone who is more than “relatively” kind to YOU as well.

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Kids first, he doesn’t pick and choose of and when he wants your children, bye bye idiot …

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Hmm
take it easy,it’s nothing but jealousy,
put it in prayer
teach ur older kids to respect him,
he wud change wit time

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I wouldn’t even want him to father his own kids with that attitude kick rocks good guy he was never it was only an act. Leave.

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The first racial comments I heard or heard of would get his ass kicked out :wave:t2:… I don’t care how nice he was to me or your babies together. If he can’t treat innocent children with compassion and respect … Don’t let the door hit you babe…

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