My kindgergartener is hitting his classmates: Help?

I am having immense issues with my 4, almost five-year-old hitting other students in his kindergarten class. I’m overwhelmed, and dont know what to do. Some advice from other mothers would be greatly appriciated.

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Maybe you need to go spend the day in his class and when he hits another child, you handle the situation then and there.

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Do you spank your child? Maybe change the way you discipline. Encourage using your words over hitting.

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Explain to him that hitting is not nice and it hurts others… I’m sure it’s a short lived issue.

How do you correct hitting at home? How does the teacher handle it during class? You both should agree on the same discipline, consistency helps yield results.

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My advice isn’t accepted by today’s sensitive world. Time for a trip behind the woodshed. Teach him that hitting hurts

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I guess the best question is why is he hitting? Is he hitting when he’s angry or frustrated? Is it during play and he doesn’t understand he’s hurting his friends? Have you witnessed it happen? There’s so many factors here…look up conscious discipline :heart:

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Make Feelin jars and teach him about feelings and how actions can hurt! There’s a great YouTube channel called wondergrove. Hit yourself and make a sad face for that connection. Often times kids hit cause they can’t express with words.

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theres a book on almost any behavior for this age
try any one of these for instance

Did he test into kindergarten? I’m asking because as a 4 year old in October I’m wondering why he started Kindergarten so early. It probably has something to do with the behavior. I’m a preschool/prek teacher and when kids are moved up to fast for their social emotional development they act out. That’s honestly my best guess. Or he could be becoming frustrated with the work he is doing and its causing the acting out.

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Encourage talking through feelings. Why did u hit ? What were u feeling?? Then once he recognizes the emotions and what causes them. U can teach him ways to calm himself down. Deep breathes, hit a pillow, maybe give him something he can hug or play with that has tactile comfort. Like a sensory ball. And then repeat. Itll rake time to learn. Make sure teachers are using the same techniques. And then if he hits, consequences. U hit, then no show or dessert. Then follow through

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I’m going to the same thing with my son right now in almost all device in these comments are other f****** crap.

talk to your teacher go to your doctor get in touch with your doctors pediatric counselor work with them. don’t take advice from f****** pathetic strangers online that think that they are higher than everyone else

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They need to see the connection and how our actions make others feel.

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talk to the teachers/principals… having similar issues with my kindergartener… she is fine at home mostly or I can see when she is getting frustrated, so I can help her work through her feelings, but its hard when you aren’t with them. They have school counselors, outside counselors that come to school… our school has been an amazing resource and her teachers/principals/counselors have all been so patient and understanding to work with us. Huge stress relief.

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Too young and may not be emotionally reafy. Pull him out and wait until next year.

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Why is your 4 year old in kindergarten?

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I had this issue when my little one started preK last year.

we started a good behavior chart at home and at his school with the same reward/punishment and worked to get him on a consistent schedule at home and it really helped!

get on to him when he does wrong (go to a 7) but praise him when he does better (go to a 10)

when you start celebrating good behavior with more intensity than punishment for bad he will be more motivated to have good behavior

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Sounds like he is overwhelmed too. Good God woman 4 yr olds aren’t ready emotionally or behaviorally to be around a herd of kids let alone all the rules to follow in school.

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I know it’s wrong to hit others but make sure he’s not being provoked.
My kid typically won’t hit unless someone is mean to him first.

Tell him ouch at home & if he thinks it hurts you he may stop. It can be a hard habit to break.

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Wait why does my kid have to wait till he’s almost 6 to go to kindergarten?!

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