My MIL gives my baby cake and tea: How can I tell her to stop?

How do I tell my mother in law to stop feeding my one-year-old black tea and cake? She comes from a generation that believes that me telling her what to do when she had lots of kids before, would be disrespectful. I tried once to explain to her that the baby is too young to have caffeine (black tea), and she told me straight away she doesn’t believe in this crap. Now I have been very ill for the last couple of days, and while I’m very grateful that she looks after the little one, it makes my blood boil when I see that she gets feed toast soaked in a copious amount of black tea, followed by Indian sweets … And the list goes on. How do I approach and explain?

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Get over it she wont die.

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Then tell her to stop. Be up front and honest. Tell her your the parent and she needs to respect your wishes or go find someone else who will

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Yum :yum:
Girl bye I wish mine would have but both my grandmas died before I was born.

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Grandparents spoil
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She probably won’t listen. You may need to hire someone to watch her instead if it bothers you that much

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Actually my doctor told me a little caffeine won’t hurt (my daughter is 1 and gets sips from my coffee on the weekends). But as her mother, regardless of what your mom thinks, it’s your rules. You need to be firm

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Your baby, your rules … plain & simple

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Tell her no tea. If she continues, you have to prepare for her to not see your child. Is that what you want? I fought this same battle with my MIL (minus the caffeine). I know it’s hard, but you really do have to pick your battles.

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If she babysits for you good luck with that daycares are a lot of money

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Tell her flat out it’s not okay with you, Stand your ground this is your child

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Find another free babysitter.

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Tell that lady to stop and that’s it. Its your baby. Stop her now or you’re in for a lifetime of giving into her ways out of fear of disrespecting aka sticking up for yourself.

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Don’t let her see her any more

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Go with the flo. Indian babies do ok with it. So will yours. Also as you get older you will realize that every 10years or so dietary recommendations change. Babies are tough little critters.

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Just don’t give your daughter those things when she’s with you. A little won’t hurt and it’ll save some stress.

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Calmly explain to her that you do not want her giving this to your child. Yes, grandparents spoil, but spoiling and completely disregarding what you want as a parent is wrong. Your husband needs to be on board with you as well and back you up. Your child. Your rules. Period.

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I fed my kids ice cream and collards as a couple weeks old. My granny said feed that baby. She said what do you think we fed you father when he was born

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A hard thing to learn is that sometimes it’s ok to lay down the law with the older generations. Your baby, your rules. I understand that the “rules” change regarding kids regularly but you’re not comfortable with it so it’s a no go. Ask that your so have the discussion with her if you’re not comfortable. Stand your ground mama. Just be straight forward and firm.

Just tell her. She raised her kids how she wanted and she should let you do the same. It’s not her choice to make and she should know her place. End of story. That being said…be careful of being too fussy…

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