My MIL hates me: Advice?

My mother in law I live with… she has three grandkids first being a boy ( he has a different mom ) then my girls… when I started my relationship with her son she didn’t like me or me being around her grandson. I got pregnant, never asked how baby and I were… fast forward some time… we live together, and I can’t stand how some days she ignores her youngest daughter and me is so mean to my kids, and she says nothing. Got to a point where we argued, and I told her if she doesn’t like me, that’s fine, but she will not treat my kids like they’re any less than her grandson or let her daughter treat my girls like rag dolls. Since that day she doesn’t talk to me after she told me we should get along and not fight we’re “family”. My husband is working hard so we can get out of this house fast. I’m a SAHM.

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Just do what you can to get along with her and try not to cause any problems even if she may start any and all of them as long as your working to get out of the house. You’ll get out someday and hopefully soon too for your children’s sakes.

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Join some groups about bad in-laws.

You’re a stay at home mom but living in her home, so in a way she’s supporting your family so that you dont have to work while her son is working to support you as well… Maybe find a job and things would get better if she saw you contributing to the household…

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Try to be civil with her I understand it can be trying but she is letting you stay with her. Maybe you can soon get out and have your own house. Best of luck to you and your family

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Girl I’ve been there. In one ear and out the other and dont let her get to you . Your situation is just temporary. I know it’s hard as fuck but deep breaths

Get a job & move out asap

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damn i’m sorry about that it really sucks when our spouses family doesn’t like us my husbands mom an dad never liked me we dated for 3 years an on our third anniversary we found out we were having a baby girl then here they come talking about that’s not his kid all this bs they were planting seeds in his head he even told me i was gonna be made to do a dna test to make sure it was his child (not necessary i wouldn’t ever lie about something like that) but then come time for my daughter to be born here they come again “oh she’s a hines look at her face !” oh they loved her man now they hardly ever talk to me still don’t like me but they don’t try to be in my life or my daughters but they make his life a living hell hole an it sucks it really does my father in law called me the other day talking about how he bought a car seat for my daughter (for my cars) an how it was almost 200$ an i’m like ??? OKAY AND? i’ve been buying diapers wipes clothes everything since she was born an i’ve prolly spent well over a few thousand dollars (i’m not cheap i want the good stuff idc how much it costs) anyway so the line went dead ( i have ZERO service out here where i live) an i called my husband up an was like look get your dad bc i’m bout to go off he thinks that he should be crowned granpa of the year an i got some bad news for him bc he ain’t shit i mean thanks for the car seat thanks for contributing SOMETHING to my daughter an her existence right ? but other than that it’s dead silence i mean i call my mil every so often to see how things are an she’s civil with me she’ll text me an ill text her but no one sends her anything no one does anything for my daughter bc they don’t like me an don’t want either me to be w my husband or my husband not to be w me idk but that’s not the way she should be treating your kids jus bc she’s old an bitter i would seriously slap the FUCK out of my mil if she EVER did some shit like that to me or my daughter she’s gonna respect tf outta me an my daughter esp if she’s living in MY MF HOUSE come on girl stand your ground you an your daughter are NOT welcome mats!! an hubby can either get w the program or the both of them can hit the curb that’s jus my opinion tho :woman_shrugging:t3::point_right:t3:

It never works out living with your in laws

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That’s a real good idea The sooner the better

That’s really all you can do be civil and keep the peace until you can get out it is her house after all

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Lot of you people missed the point. Jesus fucking christ :woman_facepalming: tell your husband and just keep contact limited. Then when you guys leave, leave for good. Dont go over anymore

Don’t like playing favoritism, not a good feeling

Regardless if they’re living there or not that does NOT give her a right to mistreat the kids. Maybe she should get a job to but again that’s NOT a right to let anyone mistreat the kids. Id put my hands on anyone who mistreated mine. 🤷 which is why i can’t/won’t live with anyone…
Anytime anyone mistreats or is mean to your kids, always say something, even if you have to be mean.
Get a job so you can get out quicker…

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Get out! Life is too short to put up with this kind of BS.

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As much as this hurts most MILs hate dislike their DILs.Even if the DIL is a doormat she wont be good enough .If anyone has a caring Mil please cherish them.

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Go to some of the places who help family’s in need.
Ask about housing, there are places that rent according to you’re in come. That a start
Once in you’re own place apply for food stamps and churches help with turning on utilitys. There are ways to get out.

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Get a job and get your own place.

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Get a job and rent a place. There are places that go by income now for rent and give vouchers for landlords that accept them. Two incomes would be good. Apply for Section 8 for housing too. Child care look for reliable sitters for them at their place. Many Mom’s do this for income and not as expensive as some places. I had my son in homes like this so it was more personal later put him in Daycare to be in a more structured atmosphere. You can do it cause I did. I did not have the resources that are available now. Would never live with my family and especially my MIL. In the meantime don’t engage in a conversation with her and keep your kids away as much as possible. MIL may appreciate you more if she feels it isn’t just her son working. Just a thought.

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My relationship with MIL is toxic. Fortunately my husband was the adamant one (we both were but he made the point it was about his wishes to her) and we completely cut her off. Life is so much better. Cut the cord. She made us homeless so we had no choice. Don’t let it get to that point for you.

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