My MIL is trying to ruin my marriage: Advice?

How do you deal with a MIL that tries to ruin your marriage & a husband that doesn’t put his foot down to stop her??

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The bigger problem here is the husband

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Take matters into your own hands…that’s what i did… To both of them. Told her off and told him if he had a problem he could get to gettin with her! This was about 5 years ago… We’ve been cool ever since lol

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MIL is mother in law

I’d tell him if this is how it’s going to be I want a divorce because if you can’t tell your own mother when she’s over stepping boundaries then what’s that say about your future with him is she always going to do that… it’s like she’s going to be in your relationship all the time…

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I went through the same situation and now I’m divorced.

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It’s really sad and devastating when this happens soul destroying but the husband should back (with due respect) his wife or their marriage is doomed and sometimes the mother in law is only reacting to what she has been told by her son depends what your husband is saying to her because lies can ruin so much :cry:

I agree with some others. You need a talk with your husband. The mother in law can’t do much if you’re on the same page. After that, yes, he should tell her something. He should be defending you. If he’s not, that’s an issue too. I’m not saying for him to argue with his mother. But he should be telling her something if and when she’s being disrespectful.

Speak Up.Husband has to open his mouth.

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I got a divorce :woman_shrugging:t2:

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The husband has to be the one to set boundaries with his mother.

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If you don’t put your foot down it will just get worse. People do what you allow them to do hubby needs to grow a backbone and put a stop to it

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My mil hated me from day 1. I was lucky enough that my husband had a back bone, but the day he died she blamed me and cut off all communication. It would have been horrible if we weren’t a team, but we were. Please find a way to get to ther momma’s boy and get some boundaries in place. If not, no matter how great he is, your mental health comes first.

Put the bitxh in her place and put him in his place. Move far away helps too

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throw the whole husband away

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Put your foot down!! If he takes her side it’s time to reevaluate your marriage! Seriously

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Mothers and Sons! … just saying …

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Eh, it can be just an issue that needs ignored…my fiances mother thinks I’m the devil herself! But we dont associate much with her, and when someone does, it’s my fiance and he doesnt bring me up and changes subject if I’m mentioned. It just makes her angry that her little boy has a different woman in his life…life isnt centered around mommy anymore, and that sets her off beyond belief…this technique has actually landed us at our 9 year mark now. I mean, I’m a pretty strong willed woman and take everything with a grain of salt…so I mean, it’s really not even an issue at this point, that’s his mother and will forever be…as long as hes not talking badly about you to her, you should probably just be ab adult and shrug it off really.

Tell your husband the next time he wants his pecker serviced, he can get his mother to do it. Agree with other commenters, husband is the problem. He needs to fix this. My MIL was the same so my husband chose to cut her out completely and our marriage has been MUCH BETTER!! Many years later, he knows he made the right choice, no regrets. Sucks it had to be that drastic, but that was no fault of ours. Can’t control other people’s behavior, but you can make boundaries!!

Get out sooner than later…