My mom is constantly criticizing my husband: Advice?

My husband, our son and myself live with my parents. My mom is ALWAYS criticizing my husband on everything. It’s always; you don’t work enough, you don’t make enough, you don’t do this right, you shouldn’t be hanging out with these people. She even criticizes our parenting; she does it in a way where she acts like we don’t know what we’re doing but doesn’t say it in those exact words. It’s always her way or the highway. She criticizes how we choose to discipline our son if we don’t discipline him enough. Just being in the same room as my mom is now starting to give me anxiety. I’ll be fine, and the moment she walks in the same room as me, sometimes I’ll start to have a panic attack. My husband is to the point where he can’t stand being in the same room as her. Honestly, I don’t blame him! My mother is also a control freak! She’s starting to make my husband feel like nothing he ever does is good enough. My husband is also starting to feel like she’s trying to push his family away. I don’t know what to do. The only option I see is getting our own place. Has anyone else dealt with this sorta thing? Any advice, please?

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Ugh I would have a hard conversation with my mother for sure. If she doesn’t change her ways, then def start looking for your own place!

Best thing to do is get your own spot … for you and your family .

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If it’s really that big of a problem move out!!

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You have two options. Deal with it or move out.

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Set some healthy boundaries and look at moving out

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Um… yes? Move out?

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Why are y’all still there? And why haven’t you put your mom in her place regarding your spouse?

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I was always told-"two families can’t live together ".

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Get your own place asap. Once you do, put a stop to her doing you that way.

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My dad is the same way only I’m not married I am in a relationship we are actually in the process of trying to get a loan and buying a place. That kind of attitude is just too toxic, and your children don’t need to see you and your husband being spoken to like that either it sets a bad example. Get out as fast as you can while you can still salvage the relationship with your mom

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Whoever makes the house payment gets to make the rules.

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Do u really need someone to tell u that u should get ur own place??

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Have a chat with your mom. Ask her if she had a parent or an inlaw that ever treated her or her husband like she does you guys and use examples of what she does. No not come straight out and ask her that use examples. Then ask her what she did to ready the situation.

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Y’all need to get your own place… it sounds to me (strictly opinion) like she may be resentful having such a full house and pushes him because he’s the man and should be taking care of his family, not y’all bunking under her roof. Totally my opinion but it would make sense as to why she always nags him.

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Time to move. Love your family, your husband and your mom. But for your sanity move.

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My dad is likes to criticize everything I do one thing I don’t let him do is talk about me being a mother or anything about my children. I set anything he says really fast. Honestly I’d move out and say something back everytime she says something.

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Get your own place

We ended up moving STATES away, just to run our own lives

When you have a family of your own, you should have your own place. I have three grown children living with me, 23, 21, and 19. They live in my house, they follow my rules. If they don’t like it, there’s the door.

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Get your own place, no home is beg enough for two women-you are an adult but if you never leave the person who has always mothered you, she will ALWAYS mother you, he is an extension of you!