My mother and law cut me and my daughter out of her life: Advice?

My mother-in-law went completely ballistic and cut my daughter and me out of her life. She told my husband that I needed to go get our belongings from her house, and we weren’t allowed back in there. She turned around and is playing the victim and saying we cut her out of our lives and a bunch of other lies about me. I know I shouldn’t let this bother me, but I’m just extremely heartbroken for my daughter and unborn child because they won’t get the chance to know their father’s side of the family. I don’t know how to handle this and should be considered a blessing in disguise, but I just can’t get over the fact that she went and cut our daughter out of her life too. I understand why she might have wanted to cut me out, but my daughter is innocent. She’s just a little toddler and knows nothing about fights or ethnic differences. I’m super upset and hurt about it all, and I guess I’m just looking for advice about how to get over this bump. Or how to learn quickly to be okay with this act of hatred.

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A lot is missing from this story… she says she might know why her MIL would cut her out… so why is that??

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I wouldnt even stress. Live ur life for ur daughter and urself. Noone needs to know the full story. I see it as a blessing. Save urself money on holidays. And gas on trips to her house lol and less headaches. She wanna play the victim. Let her. Add to the story shes telling lol have a drink and enjoy life with less miserable ppl in it. :pray::heart:

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Her loss. The MIL I mean.

It’s her loss! Your daughter is better off.

If she is toxic, LET HER GO!!! Period! Babies and children especially should come up in a drama and toxic free environment…

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My in laws cut me out years ago but I still take my kids to see other family members. You can only control what you do, not others.

Just let it go. My mother in law did way worse and 5 years later and we have yet to talk to her. We get random information at times of people we know telling us she’s still saying ridiculous stuff. Just let it go. It’s not healthy environment for you or the kids.

If anyone can abandon a baby/toddler/child that is a family member simply because they have issues with you, then I say the trash took itself out :tipping_hand_woman: if she can do something like that to her grandchild, no matter what the reason may be that you and her and a falling out, then she’s a toxic person and I wouldn’t want her around my child/children anyway!!

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I need so much backstory. But absolutely nobody is obligated to associate with you, family or not. And you cant use a baby as a way to keep associating once they are done

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That’s sad, hopefully yous can get passed. A grudge is the worst to hold onto. If not, there are people who come and go out of our lives all the time. As long as yous have eachother you’ll be fine.

Toxic is toxic. Whether its blood family or marital family or friends… see it for the toxicity that it is.

You’re not explaining the whole thing so none of can give a option…

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As someone who grew up with out a grandmother in my life it is not a big deal. My father’s mother disowned me because I looked like a native American when born (1/8th Native American) she died before I turned 2, my other grandmother lived too far away so I did not know her. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. When you’re children ask about that grandmother be honest and say you don’t get along, but don’t bad mouth her just say she chose to not be in your life.

Girl be happy! She’s obviously crazy and you don’t want that around your daughter! Maybe the rest of the family will see it to and you can have a relationship with them. Count your blessings!

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Maybe she seen the interactions with her son & you, and thought it was toxic and she couldn’t deal with it on the day to day, maybe best for you all to get your own place!

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Just let her go her loss not hers

Don’t worrie about it just go on living your life

My mantra has been if they’re toxic to you then they’re toxic to your children. Count your blessings and move on. My side of the family wants nothing to do with me but wanted a relationship with my children. No way! I haven’t seen or heard from them in over a decade and my life is peaceful. My children still have their paternal grandparents so they are still getting that grandparent relationship. Seriously, it’s not the end of the world for your kids, sounds like they are better off!

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There has to be more to the story.

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