My mother in law called DCF on us because my boyfriend and I are in school: Help?

My boyfriend and I are both in our 20’s, and we just had a babygirl two months ago.We the best since we’re both in school, work and work around each other so one of us is always watching her. Well, the other night, his mom came and stood the night and saw how we run the place, which is we get up and get ready, and one stays with her and the other works. When we stay with her, we get what we need down, like homework, house chores, food shopping, and all. Well, apparently she doesn’t like that we’re running our lives as that told us both to quit school because we had the chance and we lost it since we had the baby. She goes on to say that she has “ proof” that we neglect our daughter and called dcf, and they literally came over. I need to know what the heck to do because now dcf is involved because she told them she found bruises on her, yet the two small ones she has was from her doctor’s appointment when they gave her shots and both of us we’re there. I kicked her out of our place and haven’t said anything to here. My boyfriend is worried about the possibility of our daughter getting taken away because his mom is a big fat lier. I know we’re young, but we are taking advantage of our daughter being young to get the rest of our stuff together. We’re doing it for our daughter

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Dont worry DCf won’t take ur baby from you unless they believe u are unfit. You can do everything your doing as a mother and father to have a better life for ur child. Dont let that woman scare you.

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Keep her VERY far away from all of you. Keep doing your best for your child, and if you have done nothing wrong, you should have nothing to worry about.

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Get lawyer’s advice on how to handle this situation!!!

They will go by what the social worker finds it sounds like y’all are doing what a lot of people do living your life

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Don’t yall drop out of school. Sounds to me that, she just wants your child. Keep ur head up high.

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Have them talk to the dr and be truthful do not let them force you into their program when you haven’t done anything wrong. Just do the interview ect and be truthful that it is a wrongful call

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This case will most likely be done before the bruises from the shots heal. You guys arent doing anything wrong !

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Sounds like you have nothing to worry about… CPS has to get involved if they are called but it can be an easy open and shut case… I wouldn’t allow MIL anywhere war my family again!

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Leave her out of your life! Proud of you guys for continuing your education even as young parents. Don’t ever feel guilty for that! I didn’t go to college till I had my first child at 19 and continued my education even after 3 kids. Sounds like you have a routine down and the busyness is part of parenting and life. You’ve got this!! Did DCF find any concerns? If not then keep going and tell MiL where to shove her head🤣

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Well she’d never see my kids again :woman_shrugging:

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Hahahaha hahahaha not at you at your MIL. She sounds like a joke. Keep her so far away from you guys. Unless your actually doing something unfit, they aren’t going to take your child away. I had a couple people call on me out of revenge and the Worker always would come in look around and tell me they too through it was a joke too. I went to school and worked full time and raised one alone, the ln continued school and worked full time and raised two.lFinished school and worked over full time. Then after my third I went back to school, worked full time, and raised three, alone. Not one worker ever said anything about it because going to school and working means you are trying to better yourselves.

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They wont take her away for you guys going to school. Get far away from that lady.

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Dear, those organizations, are over whelmed, if your house is picked up and theirs food,and the baby’s thriving, relax!! You’ll be fine!!

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You can prove the bruises are from shots from the doctor’s. Unless they can prove abuse or neglect then no worries.

I wouldnt allow MIL near my family if she called without SERIOUS concerns. E.g. safety issues she brought up that wasnt addressed and was very dangerous or actual abuse.

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They can tell that bruises are from shots… they will just watch you… keep house clean, baby clean, healthy n food in house, no drinking, no drugs n no going out… n u will be fine

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I promise you dcf is not going to take your daughter away bc you’re in school. If nothing bad is going on in your house hold it will be an open and shut case. I would never keep my daughter from my mil but my mil also would never do some shit like this. I’m so sorry. It’s never to late to go to school! Don’t quit! I’m sure you are both doing the best y’all can!

You are doing amazing for the situation I would say and you can even proof were 2 tiny bruises come from. In 90% of the states they are for the parents, they only came because it’s an Infant and who knows the story she spun. Breath, do what is best for your family

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Long as your child is being taken care of they won’t take your kid. My kids fall and hit their heads and constantly have bumps and bruises all over. They know what abuse bruises look like… don’t let her back into your life…

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Keep her away from your child. Going to school and working are not neglecting your child. Sounds to me like she is a wack job. Do the interview, show them what they want to see and be truthful. It will be an open and shut case. In the end she will look like the fool. I dont even know you and I am proud of you for continuing to go to school and raise a child. Kids make life hard and you seem to be doing an amazing job at balancing the two!!

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