How do I deal with my MIL expecting to wait on hand and foot at my house at all times? Every time we have them over, she sits back, relaxes, and waits to be called to the table for dinner. We prepare the food, set the table all while she sits back and watches. Once dinner is finished, she, again, sits back, plays with my daughter, and allows us to clear her plate and do the dishes, all without lifting a finger. I just don’t know how to get the point across that this is not a hotel, and I would rather not host you at all than being treated this way. Send help!
…what. She’s a guest? I don’t expect my guests to do anything when they’re visiting…
Ask her to help you with something
I don’t get how that’s waiting on her hand and foot… You’re hosting her so youre doing what you’re supposed to as a HOST
I mean…she’s a guest lmao
I don’t see a problem it’s a guest and she’s you MIL. I would just do it out of respect. 🤷
After a while she becomes family. Family just helps each other. That’s ridiculous. Just because she is your MIL does mean you need to serve her.
If you aren’t ok with it, have you tried just telling her how you feel?
This post is pointless she’s a guest … let her relax ! I don’t see the problem my goodness
I think she might be trying not to micromanage your household. It is her way of letting it be your house …
Don’t invite guests over to dinner if you don’t want to cook and clean
Just admit it, you dislike your MIL for other reasons and now you’re just being petty
She is a guest in your home. Doing all the things u listed is what a host does when someone visits their home. Do you help in any way when u visit her house? Or do u get “waited on” when your over there at her house?
That’s usually how it goes when you invite people over?
That’s how I was raised to treat a guest in my house. I didn’t realize it was a bad thing
Um SHES THE GUEST?!?!
If I have a guest over, family or not, they’re a guest. I don’t expect them to “lift a finger”. If she’s playing with your child, she’s doing her part by keeping her occupied while you can clean up.
Isn’t that what you do when you have people over anyways? I would never expect any guests, family or not, to clear the table or do dishes.
She is your guest… if you want help just ask her for it… but she is your guest.
ummmmm not to be rude but she is a guest in your house…? I can’t fathom expecting a guest do do any of the things you listed.