My mother-in-law gets mad that my daughter naps during the day: Thoughts?

My mother in law hates the fact that my 10-month-old daughter naps during the day. She always makes comments about the “strict schedule” we have her on…it’s not even strict, she wakes up at whatever time she does…eats…hangs out for about 3-4 hours…naps…wakes up and does it all over again. She only has 2 naps, which I don’t think is excessive? (Not sure, first kid). There are some days she will only have one nap, but she is significantly fussier those days. I tried explaining this to her, and she just blows it off…saying things like, "my kids never napped, naps aren’t that important, you can’t stop your whole day for a nap, etc."We don’t stop our whole day…sometimes we work our day around the naps because it makes our baby a more cheerful one and we feel less stressed because she isn’t fussy… So what’s the big deal! She also doesn’t believe in a “bedtime”. Our little one falls asleep between 8-9…if it’s ever anything past that it’s sooo hard for her to fall asleep, I assume because she’s overly tired? She believes baby should sleep “whenever she wants”…It makes me hesitant to let her watch her…I feel like she will just keep her up for however long she wants, and I end up with a fussy/unhappy baby. I don’t know. She was just venting because I got scolded because my daughter just went down for a second nap.

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Her kids must have been miserable when they were young. :confused:

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It’s normal for them to nap twice a day! My daughter went to one nap a day just after her first birthday!!
They require like 14 hours of sleep!
She is not almost 3 and still naps once a day!

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Yo gramma " worry bout yo’self"

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2 naps at that age are normal and for baby’s they are absolutely a necessity unless you want a screaming over tired child all day

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A sleeping baby is a happy baby lol my kids all hated naps by that age but if that schedule works for your baby then go for it. I hate when older people say my kids never did that. Every kid is different

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My kid napped twice a day until she was about 1. She still naps on occasion at almost 4 but was steady 1 a day until recently. Let the baby sleep as kuch as it wants. It is vital for proper brain development.

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How did she raise her kids? Geez. Physiologically babies NEED sleep to develop. She doesn’t know what she’s talking about. Just ignore her and set your foot down. It’s your child.

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Your baby, your rules. Sounds to me like what you are doing works great for your family. Maybe what she did worked for hers…but this isn’t her family. Keep in doing what works for you.

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My grandson is almost 10 months old and he usually naps 2 times a day! Once around 11 and sometimes again around 4. He’s usually ready for bed between 8:30 and 9. You’re baby is just fine and normal. Screw what she thinks. Lol.

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She sounds like she failed as a mom to hers! Kids most definitely need naps! MIL needs to mind her own damn business!

:flushed::roll_eyes: She’s annoyed because a baby naps?? What’s she expect the baby to do? Get a job? #mindyobusiness

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Schedules are do important for little ones and sleep us when they do the most growing/developing! Naps are a big deal! Next time she says something just say this is the way we parent and it works really well for us… sorry you don’t like it…

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Naps ARE important. For their mental and physical development. I have 3 toddlers and they still nap at least once during the day.

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Sounds like you know what you are doing! Good job.

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My two napped twice a day till one and then went down to one nap a day. My oldest was nearly four before she stopped having an afternoon snooze. It’s completely normal for children to nap they are so active and also constantly growing!

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Shit! I nap n I’m 42, sooo I’m all for naps :+1:t3:

At that age they need to nap. Their body and brain is taking up so much info. Napping help them to rest from their days activities. It is beneficial for their brain growth. I have let my mother in law know that I appreciate her “advice” that she raised her children how she saw fit and that I will do the same with mine.

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she needs to go with you to the next Dr. appointment- bring up naptime in front of the Dr. they are necessary for growth.

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My kids took naps! Usually 2 until they were 2. And ALWAYS have had a bedtime. Plus My 4 year old still takes a nap once a day. Not sure what her problem is.

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