My mother-in-law treats my son differently than my son: Advice?

My son is six months old, and my mother in law has only seen him once — a family Christmas. My husband’s sister was a family Christmas with her also 6-month-old baby & when it came time to give presents she gave 13 presents to my sister in laws baby & 4 to my baby. Now I totally understand that my son is just a baby and won’t understand the gift difference yet. However, he will as he grows up, and it really makes me mad. My mother in law has me on Facebook, and her Facebook page is plastered with pics of sister in laws baby. Along with her buying the baby a ton of things. My son is about two weeks younger than my sisters-in-law, and the day after my son was born, someone posted a status on her page saying, “How’s the newest grandbaby,” and she replied by saying “(SIL’s baby name) is doing great!” Things like this just really make me mad, and I’m just wandering if people have any advice or have been through similar situations? My husband has told her how we feel about it, and she just denies doing it.

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tell her, then walk away. your kid doesn’t need that or deserve it, and if you don’t make your point now and make it count, it will continue. If it continues after the “talk” you need to walk the “walk”

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Don’t let her see the baby then. Simple as that. Toxic is toxic. No matter who the person is

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I honestly would desensitize yourself to it … My own mom has done this …we all know she has her favorite she does too … my own parent still does this to me … Post pics of his step daughters but doesn’t even acknowledge the fact that he has a biological daughter … I wish I would have dropped the issue years ago I let it affect me for too long … if I where you I wouldn’t waste my time or energy on it she is the one missing out !!!

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My mom is the same way. She treated me differently than my brother and treats my brother’s kid, even my cousin’s kids, better than mine. Somehow shes the victim bc I finally told her I’m over it. It’s really a shame bc my daughter seems to love her.

The best advice I can give is try to let it go. Spend time with the family members that value your existence.

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Get over it. If you love your child thats good enough. Dont be petty. My parents have 8 other grandchildren besides mine. My mother in law raises and supports 5 of her daughters kids. I dont bother questioning if anyone loves them by giving gifts. Thats so immature and stupid. Love your kids yourself and let them know they are important to you. Break a cycle.

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Maybe she doesn’t like you or approve of you and her son and if that be the case (yet she won’t say) then leave her out. It’s all or nothing though you can make the effort for her to see the child and your family more and hope the relationship builds or walk away and be 100% confident in your decision and let your SO know that’s your intentions with or without him :blush:

We went through this with my husband’s bio mom, I won’t call her MIL as she hasn’t earned that level of title. She treated our daughter different than her other grandchildren. After about a year of that bs my husband put his foot down and stood up to her. She also treated me like an outsider. So she was given the choice of treating our baby like her other grandchildren and accept and treat me as his wife or she had no business being in our life. That was 9 glorious years ago and we’ve only seen her a handful of times ar family gatherings. Barely even a hello to each other. We have another baby now and she’s never been involved with him. Our children do not know who she is and we do not regret it at all. Our children have plenty other family members that love them.

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Don’t follow your MIL on FB you are putting your focus on something you have no control of. Enjoy your baby.

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You just answered your own question :roll_eyes:. She’s only saw your baby once. Take your baby around more often and maybe he’ll get more. 🤷

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Let them act how they act, eventually the kids grow up and see things for themselves. Don’t stress yourself about it, an opportunity will come up and you’ll be able to dismiss them without much effort. All families have this nonsense. Focus on those who give you and your kid loving support. You don’t need validation from any of them!

I completely understand except mine is my dad he sees and talks to his wife’s grandchildren and children but never sees mine and we live 3 miles away from them I eventually gave up because it’s a 2 way street I’m not going to put in the effort to see him if he can’t put in the effort to see us.

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My motherinlaw was this way guess whose not involved in our lives anymore? & not soley because she played “favorite grandchild” but some other controling issues & what not

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Walk away. When you go to family functions hold on to your baby and do not acknowledge that she is there. Let your husband say hello if he wants, but do not take your child to her. Let her come to you and if she gets or acts a certain way just walk away.

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Get over it!.. mothers & daughters relationships will never be replaced by a DIL. Youre the one with the problem. Doesnt mean her love for each child is different, just each relationship is different.

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Be thankful he got what he did. Worry about you

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Don’t take the baby around her. She is obviously a BITCH. I am a grandmother, and can not imagine making a difference in mine.

Why were you counting the presents to be exact anyway?! That’s petty, no one is obligated to buy YOUR child anything! And she’s only seen your child once?! Why is that?

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It’s her daughter :roll_eyes::roll_eyes: when daughters have baby’s it’s different then when sons wifes do. Im sure her daughter sees her mother way more than you do… you just said you seen her once at Christmas. My mother is closer to my children because I’m a girl and I’m really close to my mom. My brother’s child are very loved by my mom but she has a different bond with them. Just like I’m sure your mom will have with you baby. You shouldn’t worry about who loves or is spoiling your child anyway because it’s only your job to do that. Anything extra is a blessing not owed.

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Yep. When my kids started seeing that they were treated differently and it started to get to them, we cut out that side of the family.

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