My mother in law works in the medical field but wants to come over: Advice?

Hey guys, I’m not sure what to do. My mother in law works in the nursing field and is coming down this weekend for the holidays. I’m a little nervous about having a toddler and being eight months pregnant, but I want her to be able too to spend time with her grand baby. She doesn’t get to see her as often as we’d like. In the beginning, I’ll be honest; I wasn’t taking this as seriously. Still, with the sick season already a thing and throw in a pandemic with case numbers more than doubled since the beginning, I’m a little weary, especially with her working in the medical field. She gets tested, I believe, throughout the week, and that’s where I’m a little alright about it but then questioning because she’s traveling in a car through a few states, which means gas station stops, snack stops, etc. What are your guy’s plans for the holidays and your opinions? I guess I’m just searching for a second opinion or outside viewpoint, thanks

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Tell her everything you just wrote here…

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Our families live out of state. We are skipping visiting and travel, but specifically what you describe. At 8 months pregnant, I wouldn’t risk it.

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My kids dad is coming on a plane with his nurse wife from Washington state to Texas to pick the 2 boys up for 6 days. I feel the same way! I have a 1 in a half year old also and 6 months pregnant. I’m freaking out. He keeps telling me it’s fine and they have access to rapid testing or some crap but I’ve been following guidelines since March!

I work in a medical office. I havent once stopped living life, bc its so uncertain and so very short! Im also asthmatic, just saying. Just wear a mask around her, they work right? 🤷 enjoy your family while you can❤

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To be honest being in the medical field she’ll be taking the precautions that she is supposed to even with driving. (Hand sanitizing and washing) I mean stopping for gas and snacks/food while driving isn’t as dangerous as being enclosed with a bunch of people. And because she’s a medical professional she knows what precautions to take and how serious the virus is. If she’s getting tested regularly I don’t see the problem with it. In the last 6 months I have driven myself from Florida to NC to Virginia and than to MA, where I stayed for a month and drove to NE, and I haven’t gotten the virus or gotten sick at all :woman_shrugging:t2:. I would just talk with her and tell her your concerns and see what she says.

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My husband is a Healthcare worker working directly with covid and doesn’t get tested unless he shows symptoms. So I’d check on that. But honestly we avoid as much as we can since we have a one year old. But going out to the store poses just about the same risk

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I wouldn’t risk it. I’d just say “visits don’t work for us right now during this surge of the pandemic. We miss you and hope to see you as soon as it’s safe”. (Don’t let her guilt trip you into it).

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I wouldn’t risk it personally, but if she’s coming over I’d at least make her wear a mask and maintain a safe distance (no kissing or hugging her grandchild).

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We aren’t seeing anyone from outside our household. I have elderly grandparents and a medically complex infant to worry about. Even my brother isn’t coming to visit and we haven’t seen him in over a year. It’s just too risky (his girlfriend also works the frontlines). We are going to have a live stream/video chat going on Christmas so we can still spend the holiday “together”.

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I mean you can always have her go and get a rapid test? But if she is working in the medical field they have so many precautions going on right now because of it. I would let her come and just ask her to wear her mask

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We are carrying on with our lives as normal. Husband has already had covid and we were all trapped in here with him. Tomorrow isnt promised so live today!

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I’ve lost 4 people from covid, and the most recent 2 days ago. Don’t.

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NO do not take the chance, ask her to wait till after the baby is born, and maybe after she gets the vaccine. Nursing homes are at the top of the list.

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Forget about the fact that she gets tested regularly, you are more concerned about when contracting the deadly virus while traveling. That is valid and I think you are right to be concerned. I think you need to speak to her.

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If you want her to come earlier and be tested and quarantined to be on the safe side than that’s a good option. You would have to discuss with her the best way to go about it and prepare for her to come earlier and have things set to make sure is comfortable

I work at a nursing home full of covid we have pregnant employees as long as she wears all her ppe she should be fine no employees at my work have caught it. I still have to go home and care for 4 kids and they all go to a daycare where masks aren’t worn no one has gotten sick. But tell her how u feel

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We currently live in another state than hubby and have been since Aug. He flies home once a month to visit us! He lives with other people and goes through airports/airplanes to get to us! We aren’t going to not see him because of the chance of COVID! I am also a teacher and we have had in person school since Aug and I am in contact with students all day long and so are my children.

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As a nurse who works on a COVID unit, I can tell you I’m hurting from months of people avoiding me while dealing with the pandemic on the frontlines. Healthcare workers are suffering from PTSD because things are so stressful at work. plus we are isolated from family and friends. We are at our breaking points. I saw my family at Thanksgiving for the first time since March, and it meant the world to me. I socially distanced myself from them, but just getting to see them was the best. I totally understand your concerns, however, if your MIL is willing to take precautions, please consider letting her come.

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