My neighbor always let's their grand-daughter enter my back yard without permission: How should I handle this?

I have an elderly neighbor who’s granddaughter is always with her. When my kids & I are outside, the little girl will invite herself over & open my fence gate & come play with the kids. I’m ok with it sometimes. But other times I get frustrated because she doesn’t ask & her grandparents don’t ask or say anything either. There are times my fiancé and I are doing yard work for example & I feel like I have to stop what I’m doing & watch her & my kids (yes I keep an eye on my kids all the time while they are outside, but when she’s over she plays very rough with my youngest & pushes him around. She also will open my gate (my kids don’t know how) & leave it open & my two years old will try to leave. I don’t know how to go about this because she’s not my child & I tried explaining these things to her, but she doesn’t listen. & when she’s over here, I feel like she’s my responsibility. I also don’t know how to go about the whole “asking before you come” situation. As I said, I don’t mind sometimes. But it’s just about every day this is happening.

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Talk to the grandparents. Or put a lock on your gate.

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Put a lock on the gate.

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Well it’s a all the time or no time!! You set the standard!! Don’t be all well sometimes it’s okay but… how do you except a grandma or anyone else to do what you think or day to the next

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Speak up to her grandparent. Kids aren’t going to understand. Explain that she needs to be invited over and cannot leave your gate open. You’re not responsible for her well-being; her grandparents are.

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Tell her to knock on the front door

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If you keep letting it happen it’s never going to stop. Speak up

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Talk to the grandparents

Your being ridiculous, if you don’t want her there then don’t let her, children don’t understand that sometimes game your trying to play… If you don’t want her there lock your gate

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Put a lock on the gate!! Problem solved!!!

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Get a lock on your gate. If granny mentions it expin you arent child care or a park.
Sounds like granny tells her to because she wants the break. It’s so rude and is tresspasing. She’s teaching the child it’s OK to go into someome else’s property. Stranger danger needs to be taught as she could feel its OK to go to any one with kids with them

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I have a lock on my gate that you can’t open without the key

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Put a lock on your gate.
Speak to her grand parent

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Lock your gate and talk to your neighbor

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Install a lock that she can’t open

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Talk to the grandmother, obviously.

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Tell the grandparents you dont line watching her but they will have to start paying you for the service. They will probably watch her more closely

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Why on earth would you be afraid to speak up? It’s a safety issue and a boundaries issue. Knock on their door, say NO, and go home.

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Put a lock on it and say it was necessary because your kids were starting to open it.

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Put a lock on the gate

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