My niece has stolen from me and my daughter: Advice?

My niece, who is 13, stolen some bracelets out of my 5yr olds jewelry box. Her mom and dad are not the best parents and didn’t really punish her. Before I knew she stole from me, I told her I’d order her a new phone case for her new phone. She hasn’t said sorry to me or my daughter or admit what she did. She texted me today asking if I ordered it. I have not! After taking to her mom telling her mom, I wasn’t ordering anything till she apologized. So she texted me sorry I’ll never do it again. I asked if she took them and she says no, but mom told me to apologize anyways!! I’m so mad!! She is only apologizing because she wants something from me. Her mom isn’t doing anything for punishment!! And I don’t know what I should do!! I want to move on… but feel like I’m just giving in to her teenage ways!!

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Sit down with her and have a talk. She needs guidance

Don’t get her the phine case

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Why do you need to watch a 13 year old?

Do NOT order it! You’ll just be enabling her actions. If her parents aren’t punishing her let that be a punishment!

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You just don’t order it. She isn’t sorry. She won’t admit to her actions. She doesn’t deserve it.

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Don’t order anything for her. She’s old enough to know better. If she can’t own up to it and apologize I wouldn’t have her over for a while. Tough love works wonders sometimes

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Dont order it and distance yourself from all 3 for awhile.

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Are you positive she took them and your 5 yr old didnt just lose them? I wouldnt play a blame.game unless you saw her with them. I also wouldnt be ordering her anything till the bracelets are found.

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Tell your sister/brother to look for your daughters bracelets if you’re100% your daughter didbt play with them and lose them.

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How do you know she stole them? Did you see her with them? Do you have video of her taking them?

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Are you sure she took them?

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order it and give it to your daughter

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Disturbing! Not going to work when shes an adult.

put down your phone have a face to face conversation with her about what she has done and why it has hurt you ask her why she took them if she took them and explain that saying sorry just because you want something is not the best way to go about things

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How do you know she stole from you? Did you see her?

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Do you have proof she stole them?

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Nope. Absolutely not. The money for the phone case you were going to order is being used to replace the brackets. Actions have consequences.

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Say to her you can’t afford the phone case now because you need to try to replace the jewelry and the only way you will buy the phone case is if the jewellery magically turns up

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She needs guidence set her down and tell her what she did was very wrong and let her know that you know she took it and tell her little girls who like doesn’t give gifts and be done with her little thieving ass