My partner cheated but said he wants to work it out: Advice?

I’ve been with my partner for eight years, three beautiful children together. Proposed to me at the start of the year, I thought things were going great. He had a one night stand two weeks ago and told me the following day but also told me he loved me but no longer in love with me. Then a few days later he asked to work on it I’m at a loss on what to do. I’ve tried giving it a go, but can’t get all this out of my head and feel like I’m the one trying to save the relationship… advice, please

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Based on the information that you have given, there shouldn’t be another chance given. He wants to keep you around but your relationship will never stay the same. It will help mold you into someone with insecurities and cause bigger trust issues for you later on.

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Been married 28 years till death do us part. If the dude cheated on you once he’ll FREAKIN do again. Kick his ass out or leave.

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Start with counseling! Sounds like you guys have a reason to continue fighting for each other. You can over come & have a stronger relationship as long as you both work for it. Ups & downs are part of marriages. I have been through hell & my relationship is stronger today, because we worked together :heart:

He told you he’s not in love with you anymore. Im sorry but you need to believe him. He will do it again. Move on with your kids.

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Hellll no! Bye bye…once a cheat always a cheat. My ex cheated on we while I was pregnant with his twins! I refuse to accept that I’m a relationship! kicked his ass out when the twins were 6 months…BEST thing I EVER did.

My only question, can he pay child support??? You will never be happy together

Once a cheater, always a cheater! Why succumb to misery?

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Move on without him!

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He wants his cake and eat it too!!! Your kids deserve better than a dad who cheats on mom and a dad who is in love with their mom. If he just loves you as a friend why would you not want to find a man who will be madly in love with you??

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trust was broken and very hard to get back… you will question him all the time to the point you become depressed. do what will make you happy. no one deserves to be cheated on.

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Based on the information there’s no going back after cheating. Those visions you have in your head will never go away. The trust is gone. You will never trust him again.
Is he willing to be transparent?

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Not a good fit.Its not too late to start your life over right now…but years later it will be.

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I’ve been there. You will never fully trust him again no matter how hard you might try. It is best to just move on and leave the relationship.

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In all honesty you the only one can make a decision on your relationship we on the outside looking in what I’m going to say is know your worth trust your heart love yourself first

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You deserve so much better! Time to move and be happy

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Once a cheater always a cheater

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You deserve better. I’ve been in those shoes forgive and walk away

How can you work on something when he says he’s no longer in love with you?

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