My partner doesn't want anymore kids but I do: Advice?

I was wondering how to handle this. So my partner and I have been together for quite a while. He has a child from a previous relationship that we have 50% of the time. I adore them. When they are sick, I stay home; when we don’t have someone to look after them, I take the day off. He works all the time, and I care for his little one. Don’t get me wrong I have absolutely no problems with this. I love it. I don’t have any kids of my own, and I want one. I watch everyone else having babies, and I feel so jealous. My partner has said he doesn’t know if he wants more kids as it is too much work. I don’t know what to do. I love him. I love his little one, but I feel incomplete. How would you handle this? What would you do?

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I would definitely talk to him about it.

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Maybe get him sit down and have some conversation about this see how it gose maybe that little one want siblings never know

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Major communication about the subject

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Find someone else or change your mind. If he doesn’t want anymore children you can’t make him Change his mind. Find someone who wants what you want in life.

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If you two aren’t able to get on the same page about having children, it may be time to end the relationship. You can’t force someone who doesn’t want kids to have them, and you can’t force someone who does want kids to not have them.

I’d sit down and have an in depth discussion on your wants and expectations for your relationship and then decide whether or not you want to stay in it.

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Tell him that’s a deal breaker for you. It’s better to figure this out now. You need to have a serious one on one talk with him about how important having a child of your own is to you on your life and if that’s really something he cant do for you, you guys may not be the match you thought you were. This is not an issue you want to waste a lot of time on. You guys need to have a serious sit down about your relationship and your future.

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You cant. He has already said no, and you dont force someone to be a parent or have a kid if they do not want to. It is now time for you to do some deep thinking…is he worth not having kids, or should you leave? Because that is your only options with this man. Period.

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I didn’t want anymore when I got with my husband… I had one from a previous relationship…
But we talked about it and agreed to try. It took us 2 years, but we finally had a little boy together. We thought about having more, but my pregnancy was just to hard on me, so I got tied.

Now we have two perfect little tornadoes and we wouldn’t change it for the world.

Have a open conversation.

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I would make that a high priority topic, so you can both choose what will be best, in the long run for yourselves. :slight_smile:

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Your partner cannot be the only one to make this descision because he has children from a previous relationship. If you want your own children he has to understand that also.
Sit down and talk to him. Explain how you feel. It is not that you do not love the other one but you also want to experience motherhood with pregnancy and all.

Both have pros and cons but… wanting your own biological child should be a gift you can have!! I realize all situations vary…

Don’t go without to please anyone… if that’s what you want with all of your heart!! You might have to let him go and remain friends with his kids… to have the child you want… but don’t force or beg him him to have a child because that will be a life long headache and heartache…
find someone who can share what you want… for yourself and the kid… or do it alone… but… make the choice that you can live with peacefully.

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If it’s a deal breaker, tell him. :woman_shrugging:t2: you have to communicate and be honest. If he’s not willing to budge, find someone else that wants a child.

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I would ask about making a commitment or marriage-if that was not on table would not be a shack job

You have been with him for quite a while but he has a little one? Maybe he just isn’t ready for more yet

How’s it too much work if you’re the one taking care of his kid from a previous relationship anyway

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I would explain to him what you told us…and go from there

Did he know you still wanted a baby even before you got together?

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If it were me I leave having kids more important to me

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Maybe this child /no child conversation should have taken place before you got married…You should both be aiming for the same things in life

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