Hi, I’ve recently broken up with my partner of 8 years, and he’s the only person I’ve ever had a proper relationship with. A couple of weeks ago, he said he no longer loves me, and it’s broke my heart. I know I need to stay strong for my little girl, but because I’m on maternity leave, I’m finding it difficult and keep overthinking the situation, which makes me hurt more. Also, the night times feel really lonely, and I was just wondering what advice anyone has to try and help me overcome the loneliness and heartbreak and feel stronger. Thank you
Let me just say this. To drag it out when he feels this way will only hurt you more. Its going to hurt to let go but some times this happens for even better things to happen to you. Same thing happen to me. I moved on went to college, met the love of my life and have never been happier. It may not feel like it now. But it can get better
Focus on your baby girl it will be hard but just think what would you tell your daughter if she was in your situation. I hope you find comfort soon !
Its hard. My sister left her husband of 15 years because of abuse, but she had been with him soo long she didn’t know who she was after 3 kids and being around him and his family all the time. I say take time to gather yourself because you can’t make someone love you, and start finding yourself now. Just switch to “me and my kids” mode.
I’m so sorry. My daughters father and I broke up when my daughter was 3 months old. It hurt like crazy and I felt very alone through it all. My daughter was what got me through it. I put all my effort into being a great mother. I couldn’t change his mind and after a while I didn’t want too. You will get through it!
You are in a very difficult position. But I have faith in you! My suggestion would be to contact your ob/gyn and ask for a referral to a post partum depression group for moms. Not saying you are in depression here, but the village of moms you meet there is lifelong and has helped me see things in a new light. Just a suggestion. Good luck!
Talk to your friends. Keep as busy as you can) downtime is your enemy) . talk to a counselor if you think its interfering with functioning normally. Stay positive. Everything happens for a reason. I was with my ex 7 yrs and we had two beautiful girls together then one day he just left me and moved in with some other girl. It hurt so bad but now I thank the universe he left me
It’s hard I know. But there are many women I your situation and we find a way to take it one day at a time. Stay busy and develop a new nighttime routine
You have to take things one day at a time. Try not to over think as it can cause un needed stress. Your little can feel your energy so its important to stay as calm as possible. Make a list of things you need to accomplish and keep that list handy. When you do the task check it off the list. You’ll feel better. Try to accomplish one task a day. Look at it this way, you have no one to hog the blankets anymore. No one to listen to snoring and your on your own time doing things that you want when you want.
Me and my husband separated after 8 years 5 years in a marriage
It’ll hurt. Let it. Grow from it. Cry. Scream. Do things for yourself. Do things to be a even better mommy then you already are! Enjoy life! It’ll get better. And then some days will suck and your mind will wonder the ‘What if’s’. But stay busy and do good. It’ll all work out the way it’s suppose to. You will become stronger. Best wishes. We are all here to learn and your spirits journey will continue!
Try to find a real man that will
Make you his queen
So sorry to hear about this split up. Stay strong. It will break your heart but please move on for the sake of your kids
Focus on your baby. Before you know it you’ll move on.
I was in that same position but I left with my son because I couldn’t be with someone that didn’t love me back my son was 1 month I got a babysitter and started studying for special edd teacher being around kids that needed the help made me forget about him and stay focused on my son and myself best wishes
Rose quartz and aventurine for the heart
I’m going thru the same thing right now. Feels like your world is collapsing down around you.
You be strong, & I’ll do the same
In the same position as of now.
Take things one day @ a time. Let him go. It gets easier overtime. Nothing is worse then being with someone that don’t love you. Best of luck love
This happened to me after 11 years of marriage. I used to cry myself to sleep. It didn’t take long to realize it was the best that could of happened. I now look back and can’t believe I hurt so much. Just hang in there, it will get better!!