My partners mother constantly judges me: Advice?

I’ve has been with my partner for four years, I have a son who is almost seven that isn’t my partners, but he is a stepdad to him. His mother is over the top hates hearing me yell to pull my son up when his being naughty she hates if our part of the house not clean to her standards, but this is the thing we both work I clean before my afternoon shifts, and I clean soon as get home from morning shift. She has now come to the point that she’s got to have a say in everything we do to how I parent my son. I’m stressed to the point she has made us feel unable to even be at home, needing advice on how to go about it all. Mind you; we are waiting for our tenant’s lease to be up to move into our house.

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Sorry Honey, you just answered your own question! Your own place!

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Good luck dear my ex mother in law sounds the same and after 8 years she finally stood in between so much we split! He needs shit n get off the pot n tell her to mind her own

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Your own place. That woman needs a reality check. That ain’t her kid. She done raised hers, so she needs to let y’all raise yalls. :roll_eyes: no ma’am. I’m ruthless though, I don’t care if I hurt feelings. That’s MY kid ima do what I feel is necessary.

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All you can do is move

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Simple move out then she has no say

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Girl I will through the same thing just move out . Save yourself the arguments and stress on the relationship. JUST MOVE

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Sit down and talk to her and explain that your just as stressed as she is and that you can only hope the tension is gone after you have your own spaces. Also let her know how much you appreciate letting you stay there but it seems to be a big juggle for you too.

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Need to get your own spot. She cant say a damn thing afterward.

If you’re in her house, its her rules. You can’t expect to be treated grown if you aren’t acting grown.

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Rent a place till you can go back to your own

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Two families can’t live together, this stuff will happen until you guys get your own place

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Get your own place asap cause she isn’t gonna stop.

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If you both pay rent and she can’t kick you out put that lady in her place and stand up for yourself

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Take back control and get into your own home.

Get your own place and a different man

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To be honest, if one of my kids or their partners were yelling at my grandkids, I’d pull them up too… no need for it

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How long is the lease time? Yes, stop yelling at children damages the brain and stunts their development.

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You need to politely tell her to back off. If your son is not following expectations he’s probably going to get yelled at, that is part of your job. Hopefully your wait isn’t too long for the end of the lease

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Just wondering what your boyfriend has to say about this? She shouldnt be telling you how to parent unless your being abusive in any way to him but. Get the hell out. Plain and simple. Cant complain if you keep yourselves there. It obviously has been going on a while maybe dont move in with a significants others parent wspecially when you have children of your own because of this bc some grandparenta are really on that stuff. Good luck

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