My S/O doesn't want to be intimate because he thinks of me giving birth: Advice?

Ever since my one year old has been born we barely have “adult time,” there are nights where he tells me he’s too tired and there are nights when we do have “adult time” that he doesn’t seem to into it… we go months without “adult time”… he recently told me it’s because every time we do it he thinks about my sons head coming out and the whole birthing process… has anyone else had this problem and what can I do?

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He needs to go the hell up smh

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He needs to Man The Fuck Up

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id be more curious as to what else hes doing if its not with you and if thats become a problem so hes using this as an excuse …a grown man shouldnt say he pictures that every time

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the baby and mom are not the only one that gets traumatized… dads do too.

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:roll_eyes::roll_eyes::roll_eyes::roll_eyes: he needs to grow up.

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Start him off with a blow job, he’ll come around.

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Very very normal for men to feel this way after watching child birth counciling can help

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This is what he says. Start looking for the real reason. #1 he’s cheating. #2 he’s gay. #3 he doesn’t want kids. Somewhere in there is the truth.

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Hell no Kit Murphy! If he can’t make love to her the way she deserves, to hell with a blow job!! She birthed his child. That is a beautiful thing. He sounds very immature! She deserve better!!

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Getting his needs met somewhere else.

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Maybe talk to a therapist? I mean, we all have weird funky shit that may pop up, but ultimately what the hell that got to do with the deed? It isnt like your vagina stays that way :joy::joy::joy:

I dont mean to laugh, becaymuse Id be really upset but this is a fear I had as a woman, never met a man who seemed to have an issue and Im on bio baby 5…

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Counselors can help him get past that. It isn’t anything personal against you and I’m sure he would “just get over it” if he could. Get him in with someone to help him get through it. It will benefit you both.

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What a child I’m sorry hun but looks like you had a baby with a child SMH

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I’ve been there girl !!! Just suck on him he will want it. :smirk::sunglasses:

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Lol some of yall dont understand this is an actual thing, some men are completely fine- others even if theyre not grossed out by their partners they just cant get over seeing a life birthing out in the world.
He should talk to somebody because its an actual thing.
And for those being fucking rude saying hes a child and to get over it- how bout you shut up and grow up.
Some people literally cant stomach child birth and thats okay.

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I mean, I could understand him feeling that way for maybe a few weeks after birth, but a whole year?! Nuh-uh.

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Idk what man goes months my husband didnt want to wait the six weeks. He is getting his needs met somewhere else rather he is doing it himself or cheating whatever it is. Maybe try couples theropy

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Time for him to find a therapist!

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I agree with everyone that says he may be cheating, as he’s got to be getting his needs met somewhere else if not with you!

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