My siblings do not like the man I am with: Advice?

I have been dating my boyfriend for over three years. He’s the father of my seven month old, and I am very happy with him. He’s someone I can see myself saying yes to if he were to propose. I’ve never really wanted to get married or have kids, but our surprise baby kind of changed all that. The thing is… my siblings don’t like him. He and my sisters don’t get along for a number of reasons: my parents and oldest brother and SIL like him. However, because my sisters don’t like him, he’s not invited to family functions with the exception of my birthday. Funerals, birthdays, Christmas, family outings - whatever it may be, an invitation is not extended to him.

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I hope you would say yes. You had a kid with him. However my sister was right about my husband.

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I wouldn’t go if he wasn’t invited

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Sit down with them to figure out why they don’t like him…

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There is only one thats more important than the family you come from and that’s the family you create! If my partner couldn’t go then I for damn sure won’t be going either. I say lock them all in a room together and don’t let them out until there is peace. Lol.

Have you asked them why they don’t like him? There are two sides to every story. I’d talk to them and find out why, then address their reasons.

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Have you all sat down to discuss why he is not liked?

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They need to accept him. That’s your child’s father and he will want to spend he deserves to spend the holidays with you and his child whether they like him or not. My family doesn’t like my children’s father but he is always invited to functions as that’s their father and the man I’ve chosen to be with. There comes a time that they need to suck it up and understand you’re grown. It doesn’t matter who likes who. You’re together.

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The fact that she’s not questioning why her sisters don’t like him says to me that their dislike of him may have been earned and is deserved. :woman_shrugging:t2:

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I guess they see something wrong with the guy you’re with that you can’t see because you’re blinded by what you call love?

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Why do they have to invite him? Its always assumed if I’m invited…my husband is also.

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Something must of happened for them not to like him

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What are the reasons

They need to get over theirselves!!! Grow up he is who you picked!!!

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Your a family they don’t need to like him but they need to accept hom

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You guys have a kid, why isnt he invited? He is already family being the father of your child.

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Nun of my siblings like my husband all bc of our age difference. But if they dont really have a reason to like him and he take care of yall family and treats u like a man is supposed to treat a woman than I wouldnt worry about it.

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Sounds childish i wouldny be going to family functions then if he isnt invited then in not invited

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Weather they like him out not he is the father of your child. A lil more than just a bf. Sounds like they need to suck it up and get along. At least for holiday. It’s their choice if they don’t want to see him other than that.

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Definitely need more details. Is he not invited to your sister’s house only? Does your mother not invite him because of your sister? Is he abusive, sarcastic,flirty, demeaning,Republican, Democrat,Communist? Need more details!

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