My sister is spoiled and has no remorse for anything: Advice?

My sister is 15 yo, and my dad has spoiled her completely rotten. She has no remorse for anything she’s ever done, and also shes never been made to say sorry, help herself, or even been in a child’s role. They allow her to tell them what they are going to do. All this aside, I love her, and we really try to make it work. Except, this week during Thanksgiving, she accused my 8yo son of stealing a small toy she had “seen in his hands” when, in fact, her mother gave it to him to play with. (I heard and saw with my own eyes) She went on to screaming at everyone in the house to find the lost toy while talking incredibly rude to my son and just sat there at the table, not looking at herself. I asked my son what happened to the toy, and he said he left it at her house. We we’re literally 15 mins from leaving their house to go home when she caused this drama. In the end, she screamed until we walked out without saying goodbye, my son cried half the way home, and I’m just floored. I’m so upset my dad allowed her to handle the situation like this. It could have easily been handled as " if you find it when your home, please mail it back to us immediately it was a gift from so-in-so. ". Instead, she was allowed to ruin five people’s day and my son’s experience with his grandfather before we left. I’m due this week, and I don’t want her there unless she apologizes to my son first or when she arrives. Am I wrong for that? Am I wrong for standing up for my son even if it means my dad and stepmom cant show up to the hospital with her? I used this situation as a life lesson for my son and explained to my son in the car that sometimes I’m a hard mommy, but at least he doesn’t act like that in public or act like that to people. He agreed and stopped crying. He actually told me thank you I don’t let him act like that.

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No you’re not wrong. Sounds like it’s a wake up call for her behavior and she needs to know that acting like that has real-world consequences.

u have every right to be upset & she should apologize to ur son he’s just an innocent child .sounds like she’s needs a serious attitude adjustment

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Nope you’re not wrong at all. They need to teach her how real life is or it’s really gonna bite them in the butt in a few years with her.

Your child comes first so I think you are handling it the right way. If she acts like that I wouldnt want her around when I give birth. You and baby dont need that stress/drama.

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Not unreasonable. Your son is your priority not her tantrums. You need to set boundaries and stick to them. I’m sorry your having to deal with this. I have an older sister (in her mid 40’s) that behaves this way. I have closer relationships with friends than I do her because of how volatile the situations can become and I refuse to allow my children to be exposed to that type of behavior.

I have an adopted sister that was spoiled the exact same way, needless to say i do not have contact with any of them. Nothing but peace in my life. It’s not her fault, it is your parent’s fault. Can’t really blame her she was raised that way.

Not wrong. Teach that little bitch (yeah I said it, that’s what she is) a lesson. Thank God my 15 year old step daughter doesn’t act like that. Your child comes first, always remember that

Wow. That kind of behavior from a 15 YEAR OLD is ridiculous. She needs a serious attitude adjustment forsure. She should be embarrassed for that kind of behavior at her age!

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No you’re not wrong at all with all due respect your sister needs a good ass whooping, got me fucked up. .

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You are not wrong, if she was my little sister she would have some black eyes and maybe some broken bones for talking to my child the way she did, I would be very careful about letting her around my children ever, and if she ever does anything like that again I would be knocking the taste out of her mouth, no one treats my child like that

Sounds like your sister is a psychopath. I’d stay away from her as much as possible. Just because someone is family doesn’t mean you have to interact with them if they are toxic. Your son comes first.

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sounds like the 15 year old has some deeper issues. if she’s autistic… its not always as simple as ‘punishing to make them act right.’ so yes you could be wrong. but without knowing the entire story, there’s no way for a bunch of strangers on the internet to tell you.

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1st, you didn’t stand up for your son!! YOU also allowed her to act up and treat your son like crap!! You keep blaming just your dad, but you allow and condone her behavior as well!! There’s no way in hell I would have sat there, did nothing, and allow someone to yell at my child like that, sister or not!! Put on your big girl panties, call your sister and straight up tell her that her behavior that night was not right!! Tell that if she doesn’t apologize she’s not allowed around your kids!! Stop allowing and condoning her behavior cause that’s all you are doing by not telling her straight up what the issue is!! Stop being scared of a 15 year old!!

Let your dad know your sister isn’t invited to the hospital until she apologizes to your son. And not at the hospital so she can cause more drama. This is your time with your brand new baby and your sister somehow thinks she’s the baby. Time for her to grow up and good for you for not slapping your sister across the face for screaming at your son over a toy. Really, a toy. She is 15 years old. Grow the F**k up.

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I would not have her in my home without an apology

Why would you allow your son and yourself to be around toxic people like her? Learn to love from afar trust me you will be much happier.

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Stay away from u sister

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I would have told her off right there and if u wasn’t pregnant you should have kicked her ass bc obviously the parents weren’t going to stop you.

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It will only get worse smh call an exorcist

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