I’m almost 11 weeks pregnant and had my first appointment today… my SO couldn’t attend the appointment due to work… he’s now making me feel guilty because I had a sono and he wasn’t there to see it… telling me I should’ve just asked them not to do a sono. Am i wrong for wanting to know how our baby is doing? I feel like that’s something any good mother would want to know
Does he realize you can’t skip those and it’s hard to reschedule…Also necessary to make sure the baby looks good.
Sounds like he cares more about himself than the health of his unborn child. They do a Sono to check the baby not to do show and tell
Depending where you are, you could have scheduled for it in a day off.
It’s really important for them to do them at certain times to track the babies progress it really stinks when dad can’t always get off work to be there, maybe is there a place that has weekends or later hours for future sonograms ? My SO was only able to attend some of them due to work also. But we found a place that did them on saturdays so I started booking them there
I’m concerned that he’s applying this kind of pressure already. If he needs to be there so badly, and it’s not a bad thing to want to then he needs to find a way. Has he talked this way to you in the past?
You can’t always schedule your ultrasounds or sonograms around your spouses work schedule. You are only 11 weeks so you will have many more.
You’re not wrong. He’s being an ass.
Uh just because he missed doesn’t mean y’all both should… sounds kinda childish mindset to me. Not mention the first ultrasound is essential to make sure baby is where they should be, growing as they should and date the pregnancy…
He should have got it off work if hes so bothered you cant miss those type of appointments
I always recorded it on my phone whenever he wasn’t able to come
He needs to grow up…
Screw that! He’s more worried about himself than your baby! Try next time to schedule when he can be there. But dont let him slo that to you. Baby it’s more important than his ego!
It sounds to me like he’s an immature big baby and needs to grow up! There will be more sonograms tell him he can come to the next one! You better shape him up quick before the baby is born or you will he raising two babies. I’m sorry I don’t mean to sound harsh. You did nothing wrong. There was no reason for you not to do what your doctor required and for him to suggest you don’t listen to your doctor is disturbing! Good luck to you! And prayers for a healthy and easy pregnancy!
I didn’t get a choice when mine where done. I had one each visit for the first couple months. The one time I took my family they didn’t do one at all… so they atleast let them listen to her heartbeat.
Reassure him that there will be plenty more sonograms
You are going to have to get the medical care you need whether he is there or not. This is not the last time baby’s needs will come before wants.
Did he know about the prenatal appointment ahead of time?
If so then he needs to shut up and plan better NEXT time.
If he did not, then maybe it should have waited a week or two.
I can see why hes upset because it was your first sono. But on the other hand he shouldnt be making you feel guilty. I scheduled mine on a day where my SO could be there. Just make sure he is at the one where you find out the gender if you are finding out. Just tell him that he is making you feel guilty. Maybe its just him lashing out and he doesnt know hes doing it.
If you’re 11 weeks and its your first appointment tell him they needed to make sure of the due date and the size of the baby! It’s not like he missed anything important. Tell him he can go to your next ultrasound appointment which you’ll find out the gender!