My son has ADHD, how can I reward his good behavior?

So I have a 7 yr old son with ADHD, and he’s exactly what is depicted. He is wild, loud, and sometimes mean, but he is also sweet, caring, and loving. He’s on medication, but I was curious about how other people with ADHD kids handle it and ways to give positive reinforcement.

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I use a marble jar for my boys. They don’t have adhd/add. I do suspect my oldest has add but is undiagnosed. We r doing a lot of OT at home to help with his behaviour & the marble jar works for us.

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Sticker chart? If he has 5/7 good days or whatever you decide would be a good limit for him he gets a surprise at the end of the week? I bake with my step kids sometimes, I find little pieces of jewlery or movie night they get to stay up past bedtime with us and watch a movie things like that.

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Talk it out with him, ive found it helps if they help set the rewards and consequences

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My son is 6 with severe ADHD combined type.
I use an economy reward system.
We bought cheap admit one tickets. He earns those through good behavior/chores. Then he uses them to “buy” privileges and rewards.
For him we have to be strict and make him earn even tv time, playing with toys, or tablet time but he can earn bigger things too…like sleep over, movie night (with snacks), pizza night, even a new toy (he’d have to save his tickets up for that one though)

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Treat as normal as possible. Reward with sticker chart and maybe giving ipad time or something he likes doing. You just need lots of patiance and show as much love as you can.

Therapy is really helping my boy to open up, getting ready for meds. For the third time. It’s so hard, but there are times. where it seems like life stands still and I see my beautiful boy :heart: Never give up and keep pushing forward everyday :heart::pray::dancer:

I have no experience with ADHD in my home, but I have worked with children for 7 years. I have had many parents tell me that removing red dye 40 from the child’s diet helped A LOT! My child is not ADHD but is super energetic with no attention span and we were thinking about trying to remove it and see what happens if anything. Might be worth a shot

Look up the nurtured heart approach!! I’m a special education teacher, and we had a seminar on this a little while back. It seems like just the thing you need. And don’t let the name fool you!

I loved getting toys when I was younger as a reward. like i got to get to pick a few new Legos out of a toy box with Legos every time I was good when I was younger. I ended up with ALOT of Legos after awhile…

Ask him what he would like to be rewarded with and work towards. My son is 11yo and he has things he wants so that’s what he gets rewarded with. He does X for X amount of days he gets what he set heart on. Over the summer he wanted a Big Nice Knife so he had to do something for 30days with only 2 slip ups to earn it. And he accomplished it and then some cause he didn’t have any slip ups so he got to pick 2 out. Right now he’s working towards money so he does things to earn X amount of money.

My son has been dx and tx since he was 5.5yo so the Spring before Kindergarten. I wanted to level the playing field for school so he’s been on Intuniv 3mg QPM since and we added Adderall 10mg QAM (only on school days and bowling days) in 1st grade. He does so well. He gets himself up with an alarm at 7am and showers and gets dressed by 730am every school day. No major diet changes although pretty healthy naturally. Not a major strict schedule we adhere to pretty basic with that we do a lot of the same but with flexibility. Not super strict with electronics either but we are super busy so it’s naturally restricted on it own. He knows what’s expected and how to get it. If he gets more out of control I add more rewards for him to earn but really he rarely needs natural consequences or punishments.

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:raising_hand_woman: my son is 7 and has ADHD as well. We chose to forgo the medication when it had negative side effects. School has been the toughest part of our lives for years until we switched schools. His new school has a program called Check-in/Check-out. This program breaks the day up into small sections. About 2 or 3 hours at a time. He checks in with an adult at the beginning of the time and talks a bit about how he’s feeling and doing, then at the end of the allotted time he checks out with that same adult and they discuss the same thing. Then he gets a 1, 2, or 3 rating on his behavior for that time. Each section of time is done the same way. At the end of the day he gets an overall percentage and gets a reward if its 90% or more. Breaking the day up into smaller sections has been a huge success. He feels so much more confident because he only has to concentrate on 2 or 3 hours at a time and he feels less overwhelmed. If you’re having trouble at home maybe you could do something similar? Here is a pic of the grading system from today!

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I have sever adhd and add. My dad struggled but figured me out. He changed my diet. No food colors like red dye 40. And i was allowed 1 can caffeine soda a day. Caffeine is a downer for ppl like me. He said once he did that i was easier. I was definitely the child who needed my own space. So for rewards he would let me play my games. Or even buy me a new game. Back then it was game boy color so yeah im sorta old but it gave me something to look forward to. More you keep then busy the best.

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My daughter has adhd, we use a weekly reward. If she misbehaves too much the reward is taken from her, but she can earn it back

My mom did dinners at the end of the week and I got to choose where

Plus I handled it well

My son has adhd and was struggling for a long time before diagnosis so once medicated and in behavioral therapy we started doing weekly treats for good behavior. One week we let him pick a new toy, one week a movie, one week before Halloween we went zombie paintball hunting. We have been going on 4 months of great behavior

I want to get my stepson tested for ADHD. Did all you moms just see your pediatrician or did you see a specialist?

Behavior charts. Set expectations and create a point system to help him meet those expectations. Then reward him when he meets the goals set for him. My daughter gets points for doing certain tasks at school without having to be prompted or manually refocused. She gets points for correcting bad behaviors quickly. If she meets the 26 point goal for the day she gets a candy. 2 if she exceeds. 3 if she goes above and beyond. If she goes above and beyond, like 30s all week, we take her out on the weekend for a fun event. Small goals with quick results to keep interested and motivated, and larger goals with bigger prizes to work toward. You need some immediate gratification or it won’t work.

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My 10 year old is ADHD. We homeschool so trying to let him to focus can be a bit of a challenge. We’ve had to limit his screen time. We’ve found that too many electronics in a day changed his behavior. He gets much more hyper and unfocused the more he used a screen. So what we do now is use screen time as a reward. If he has a good day or stays on track he gets a set amount of screen time. My advice is to find a reward that works for your son and then stick with it. Adhd kids thrive with routine.