My son headbutts things when he is mad: What can I do?

My son will be 13 months on the 5th. I have had a problem with his head butting. He does it when he’s frustrated, to people, objects, the floor, the wall. Anything that’s in his path while he’s mad. I was wondering if anyone else has had a problem with this and how you got them to quit?


I have this issue. Try to redirect his attention to something else if you can see him getting upset. Seems to help a bit better.

It’s normal. Try redirecting.

My son use to do this when he was a toddler, ignore it was what I was always told. When we respond it accentuates the behavior, ignoring it takes the pizazz away. It eventually worked for my son.


My daughter did that also. Always scared me. The wall, the floor, the TV! Her dad (now my ex!!) would encourage it by laughing and that would make her do it more and PISSED ME OFF!! … She finally outgrew it. Once she figured out how much it could hurt

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Take him to his doctor. My friend has a son who did that

My son did this too. I would redirect him and taught him to take a big breath when he’s frustrated. Thankfully he grew out of this after about 6 months.

DO NOT RESPOND. If you give it attention it will continue


Both of my boys did it and I asked the doctor what could I do and they said ignore the behavior and they will eventually stop because they ain’t going to do anything to harm themselves badly

Like they say. Try redirecting.
Your kid 9 times out of 10 will not hit their head hard enough to hurt them. I have been through this.
It is going to be tough, and it is going to be a long run but they wil grow out of it.
Also, keep in mind, children that head bang when mad tend to be very very smart!

This was my son’s life when he was a toddler he is now 11 he lived with a small bruise on the middle of his forehead when he was 2 to 4 he headbanged everything in sight. Dr was understanding but he said it’s sensory and he will only go as hard as he can until it hurts and they do grow out of it

My niece does it too shes 14 months, honestly just let him he’ll grow out of it… with my niece I’ve told her to do it again, and she just looked at my like I was crazy and stopped throwing her fit and went off to play… I know it sounds mean but she’s slowed down on doing it since I started telling her that, because she’s realizing shes not get the attention she wants but the opposite reaction and she’s realizing its pointless

My daughter is almost one and she has been doing something similar since she was like 6 months old. She throws herself back tho, no matter if it’s on the bed, couch, floor, etc. She learned throwing herself back on the floor hurts so now she just acts like she’s going to do it I guess to just get her frustration out. I ignore it. She stops when she realizes no one is watching.

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Just went through this with my granddaughter. My kids never did that but apparently this is very common. Doc said not to make a big deal out of it and it would pass. It’s scary as Hell and the bruises on the forehead were huge but it lasted for a few months and she stopped. She would even throw herself backwards on the floor and bang her head. It scares me to death. Hugs.

When he does the head banging…don’t show a reaction. Tell him it’s ok to be mad. But he can’t do what he’s doing. My grandson did something similar. And i handled it that way. He has since stopped.

My son used to do that. I stopped giving attention to it and he stopped.

My daughter did that. It got better after meds for her ADHD, and essentially, after she developed good communication skills. Less frustration = less tantrums.

My son would do this and moved on to holding his breath until he fainted! IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE!! Once I stopped reacting to the behavior it stopped

My son did this as well as bite himself when frustrated. He was later diagnosed with Adhd and he eventually stopped. Lots of talking with him as well about how it’s not good to hurt ourselves and it makes mommy sad to him do it. I don’t agree with the people saying ignore him, if there is something else going on with him, ignoring his behavior is not going to help him get through his strong emotions, you need to be there with and be calm and talk him through it. No matter how little.