My son is trying to be independent but gets very messy: Advice?

I need some advice, so my 11 month old boy wants to be independent only self-feeding allowed. And forget about spoon-feeding a tantrum is thrown I am tired of every breakfast, every lunch, and dinner bathing three baths a day is so much my 5 yr old son was not this independent before 1 yr old I need advice big time, and he only wants normal food baby food is no longer good enough for him. Please any advice at all I will be grateful

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Just wipe him down and bathe him after dinner? Nothing wrong with an independent kid

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Put him in a muddy buddy and have a specific area for his high chair. His intentions are amazing, embrace the mess :two_hearts:

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He can also take time to learn about cleaning too, kids love helping :slight_smile:

Sew him long, long-sleeved smocks that can just be pulled of and laundered. Make sure they have an easy neck opening. Then, you only have to wash his hands and face.

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That’s great! Such an independent little one. I used an old t-shirt from myself or dad. Just throw it over his clothes like a smock or apron type of thing to help control some mess.

I always let my kids feed them selves once the were able to grasp a spoon. I usually do wipe downs with a warm wash cloth after breakfast and lunch unless its horrible horrible. And then shower after dinner.

Its better to let them be independent. Being messily is part of the process but it helps them in the long run by doing themselves.

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I’d let my daughter wear a bib and diaper

Oversized T-shirts work wonders and a box of baby wipes Or a warm washcloth! Give less messy foods during breakfast and lunch then dinner give anything since a bath follows. Young independence is frustrating sometimes but be grateful and encourage it and it will get better!

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My daughter is 17 months & has been feeding herself since before she was 1, she eats in just a diaper then bath after dinner

I did baby led weaning from six months the mess gets easier to deal with I feed my kid in close so I can just change his outfit and not have to bath him every meal. Now at 22 months he can feed himself with a fork and spoon he ate chicken noodle soup the other day out of a bowl by himself

My son is the same way and the same age, I just use wipes and keep wiping him up as he eats. Baths are saved for bed time so we can start over all clean in the morning

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Good before one is just for fun anyway. Take his shirt off, let him go to town and baby wipe him after.

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I fed my kids in just a diaper whenever possible. You’re not going to win this battle at this age. You just gotta adapt to the phases right now. And I did baby led weaning, so I offered a lot of regular foods before a year old (within reason - it was age/developmental appropriate choices). The grater was my friend at this age, too. My kids had teeth by that age, so I was able to grate up fresh fruits and vegetables to make it easier to chew.

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Being independent is a good thing. It should be a fun educational experience.:crazy_face:

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You don’t have to bathe your child after every meal. Just wipe the food off with a baby wipe. They need to learn to feed themself.

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My son is 10 months old and I’ve already accepted he’s gonna be a messy eater for the next 18 years. We knew kids would be messy when we had em right?

Please stop bathing your child after every meal. You are just asking for your baby to have skin issues.
Playing with food and being messy is 1000% normal for babies. Theyre learning. Thats what they do. Put them in a bib or oversized tshirt. It wont last forever.

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We put a towel under my babes seat. You can also put an old shirt on him thays a bit longer to cover his legs a bit for feeding. We dont we let him fees in a diaper and use a wet cloth to clean him up. My babes wont use the baby spoons or forks so we bought shorter adult spoons and forks and he loves it. Yes feeding is messy for sure
But allow him to be independent. My babes we give a cloth to will wipe his seat and face. Consistency makes for routine. We also have him help clean the floor. This will pass just don’t stop him because its too messy

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If you’re at home just strip him down to his diaper, then maybe you can just wipe him down with a warm washcloth ?:woman_shrugging:t3:

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