My son is upset his little friend moved away: Thoughts?

I need some emotional support. I have my own in-home daycare, and my son is 2. He has a little girlfriend, and she just moved away. Every morning she would walk in with breakfast from home, and she would share her banana or granola bar with him, and they would sit at the table while everyone else played. During the day, they would be in a corner playing together. My son would get in trouble for stealing toys, and while I’m talking with him about it, she would go take the toy and bring it to him. They would randomly hold hands, and he would randomly give her little kisses on the cheek and hugs. She would look at him and run and hide and be bright red. I’ve never seen him smile so much. She just moved away, and I’m having a hard time knowing they won’t see each other anymore. I know I sound stupid for getting so emotional but has anyone else had to deal with this? My son plays rough with all of the other daycare kids, and I’ve never seen him so happy and be so gentle and caring towards another kid. I’m heartbroken. I know he’s ONLY 2, but he was so happy seeing her every day.

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Wait, is it your son that’s so upset, or you?

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Any way to keep them in touch via facetime, etc? If he’s ‘nice’ to the other kids all day he get’s extra time on phone, FT, etc. with her.

We went through a similar experience with my grandson and a little girl who went to preschool with him fir a couple of years…they were inseparable…my grandson would tell me he was going to marry her…how many kids they would have etc…following year they were placed in separate classrooms and he was crushed…took him awhile to get over this

By the time they are 4, they might not have anything to do with each other! Things change quickly with kids. Just move on!

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Kids change so many friends over their lifetime, his just began a bit early! Don’t stress about it and talk about it so much. He will adjust. Maybe they could face time once a week, then every other week, etc…

Firstly explain to him his friend won’t be available anymore to spend time with him in person because she’s moved away and the whole story behind it. Even though he won’t understand what’s happening now. It’s important you say it honestly as to why she left.
To begin the transition of him moving on without her, you need to be there for him much more now. Specially because of the bond they had together. Do the same activities he did with her. If he looks for her, tell him to draw her a picture of what he’s doing, maybe ask him if he would like to show it to her by FaceTiming for a bit. The important thing is to gradually let him feel she’s there but that is okay she won’t be in person anymore. He will eventually move on onto finding other friends. Kids this age are resilient and he will be okay in time.
Mothers are the one who feel the sadness much more by seeing your child sad, but he will be just fine. Hug him a little bit more and perhaps read him a book about a friend moving away. This will also make you feel better as well.

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Well, he might need to stop being rough with the other kids and he will have more friends. And just gage how he does day by day

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People move away … he will make other friends. :woman_shrugging:

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He is too young to understand but this is life people Die move on couples seperate and pets die he will make new friends just move on don’t draw attention his friend going he will be ok :+1:

My son has just gone through this, he was 4. Him and his best friend have known each other since they were 3 (they are now 5) his friend had English as a 2nd and 3rd language and struck up a close bond with my son. They went to preschool together and played together outside of it. His mum and myself tried to get them into the same primary school but they were separated and then they moved away. We haven’t seen them in 4 months and my son still walks past his old house and asks when he can see him

This made me cry :sob: thats beyond sweet!
Is there anyway you can get into contact with her parents and work out playdates?! If they moved a few hours away i would definitely work something out.
Hes going to be so heart broken BUT its going to be okay. Give him some extra attention and love with he adjusts.

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Aww. It’s so hard when our kids make a connection and that’s broken. No matter the age. I’d really encourage him to find another friend he can play with and not rough house. He seems to like that.
Also, maybe you could set up FaceTime with this little girl that moved away. Show your son that just because she moved doesn’t mean she’s gone. He’s young enough that he may not understand what’s happening and why his friend isn’t coming over anymore.

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Maybe when he is off age they will meet again, and date and get married and have lots of babies!

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Awww that’s sad… Honestly wish I had advise for you but I’ve never dealt with it before :pensive:

Maybe you could see if you could find mom on fb and the two could FaceTime or talk.

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Wait a week, he’ll forget about it and move on

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He’ll get over it. Quick. My son had the same little girl in daycare, within like 4 days he didn’t think twice about her :joy:

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He’s 2! Put him inside an empty box with some crayons and he’ll move on. Smh

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We move across country when our youngest was 18 months. He was too young to understand and made new friends instantly. He is 8 now and doesn’t even remember where we used to live.

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