My son suffers with mental illness and lies a lot: Advice?

Mamas, I need advice… I have two boys, 13 and 5. My oldest has mental health issues, anxiety, bipolar, and Asperger’s. We have tried everything we possibly can, psychiatrists, medication, and having him placed in a psychiatric setting. He has been there once for about a week, and he never showed anything, he was a perfect angel… I’ve called so many different places for help, and I have gotten nowhere… He has rage attacks; he curses at everyone when he’s corrected for wrong behavior. One night, he had a rage attack, he was destroying my house and hitting my 5yr old and me, and I couldn’t get him under control, so I had to call the police they sent one officer and the EMTs, they talked to him, but that was it. I currently don’t have custody because he went to school and lied and said he was beaten by his dad. (Note: dad and I are together and have been for nearly 15 yrs) He was mad because his computer was taken away the night before he told his school. He has even told his grandparents, currently where he is staying, that he will burn their house down. And tonight had been the last straw, he called 911 and hung up so the cops showed up, only told him that he could be put in a juvenile detention center if he did that again, and left. I’m at my wit’s end. I love my son but Idk what else to do.

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Where are you located? This may have an effect on what to do. I too faced the same a
Situation with our son.

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Put them in assisted living facility for challenged individuals that offers daily therapy

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Send me a pm and I can tell you what we did.

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Hardcore therapy maybe a therapist that offer home visits and family sessions

If he’s not doing it at the facility then it’s a situation at home. I WAS that kid. My home life sucked. Send him off to a therapy ranch or somewhere separate from home so he can succeed.

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Please don’t take this the wrong way, and I’m by no means implying that you aren’t a good enough parent, but have you looked into any hospitals for him to stay in where he would be able to receive the proper care? I have Asperger’s syndrome along with anxiety. That sounds WAY further beyond bipolar and Asperger’s to me.

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I would be terrified to have him around my 5 year old

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Im not sure but I thought bipolar could not be appropriately diagnosed til late teens/early twenties? I would look into getting a second opinion on the conditions because a proper diagnosis would help indicate the professional help you guys need to navigate this.

You all need to seek family therapy or it’ll just get worse. Especially with him having Aspergers Syndrome they will teach you and dad how to properly handle certain situations positively and offer guides that will help with positive reinforcement for your son. My son is the same way and it is an every day battle (well, most days). We still haven’t quite figured it out yet either but it’s slowly getting better. Stay strong. :heart:

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Call the local jail to see I’d they have a scared straight program? If they do, ask if they have a stay option. And have him stay. It might honestly help.
Also you should get him a balls to the wall mentor! Like someone who was a pain the ass kid who fixed their life. They should have a mentor program in your area or the next city over?
Maybe get him into a sport? Something that would give him focus.

He’s fine around other people but not home? That’s not mental illness, that is something at home wrong

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I have bipolar,depression,anxiety,BPD and CPTSD.
I dont have asperger’s however have known a few people.who do.
He needs extensive therapy.
Probably medications
But definitely therapy.
If he continues to be violent he made need to be institutionalized. Aka hospital,youth care home, juvenile detention. Wellness ranch.
I.completely understand loving him and not wanting to see him go but everyone’s safety including his own needs to be taken into account.

Has he been on therapy, I am new to this my son just got diagnosed with Autism, and everyone says that ABA is the best thing. I am not sure about Aspergers but I figure they have some type of program too

Talk to your doctor…

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Since he he asperger what his most interest that hes smart in my nephew is so I to airplane and working on his pilot license I call it the genius disease does he truly does know everything that’s what’s so good about Asperger’s get him into what he’s passionate about so he’s consistently doing it every single day

If he’s only like this around family then something else is going on. Doesn’t sound like it’s completely mental illness related. It’s also highly unlikely they would strip custody from parents without actual proof. A child or rather a teenager just saying that his dad beats him up isn’t going to go very far and they wouldn’t take custody from the mother unless they actually had documentation of it so I’m sorry but this post just sounds like there’s a lot of information missing

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Do you have a child advocate working with your family? I don’t know where you live, but finding services on your own can be a daunting task. Having someone like a case manager can be helpful in working with providers, finding new services, and just helping to oversee his entire care. Praying for your family, I’m sure its terrifying feeling out of control when he is destroying things and lying. I encourage you to seek as many second opinions as possible. Good luck.

You best bet, and I know it’s tough, sign him over to state, he will get the help he needs. He needs a group home.

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I would recommend getting a behavior support plan put in place and maybe some community based services such as a respite worker there are plenty of waivers and grants put in place to help provide these services I would call the local mental health care facilities and see if they can put you into contact with someone.