My son talks too much in school: What can we do?

I feel this is a question for other moms. My five year old just got his very first report card back. In the “comments” area, it said he has a hard time paying attention to instructions and she often has to ask him to stop talking. We’ve noticed the behavior at home too and we’ve tried taking privileges, and we recognize good listening skills when he uses them. It just doesn’t seem to be helping. Does anyone else have any advice on how to stop this behavior before it gets worse? I get that he’s little still, but that doesn’t make it ok to not listen in school and to also be a distraction to others. Thanks in advance for any tips!

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Have him tested to see if he’s gifted. My son never, ever stopped talking…turns out he’s crazy smart and needed more of a challenge. He’s in middle school now, and he’s in advanced classes and takes some upper grade classes, and he’s doing great. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing…he just may need more than other kids to keep his mind busy.

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He’s 5. Kids like to talk and have fun. I think a lot of teachers have unrealistic expections of kids that age. Just keep encouraging him to follow the rules, and reward him when he does.

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My daughter had this kindergarten thru (so far) freshman year. I talk to her at home but that’s something the school will take care of and deal with. I wouldn’t worry to much as he grows he will learn.

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This was a comment my son got in preschool before I requested IEP meetings and talked to his doctor. My son is ADHD, yours might just be food sensitive so talking to his pediatrician is your best bet.

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My son was the same at the age, but by the end of the school year he had calmed down! He’s 8 and doing great now!

I got this comment on all of my report cards, even in high school… I would just keep reminding him but honestly some of us are just talkers and will get moved around the class a lot :joy::woman_facepalming::woman_facepalming:

Hes normal… Small kids are not meant to be quiet or to be still

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My son did this when he was about the same age - he got in BIG trouble because he non stopped talked when we were on the phone, when we were watching tv, eating dinner - he talked nonstop until, literally in mid sentence, he passed out at night. One night he got sent to his room because of it - it was so disruptive at home and school. When I went in to talk to him about why he got in trouble and he told me when he stops talking, he hears ‘hissing’ in his ears. We took him to the doctor and it turned out to be a double ear infection - he didn’t have any pain, just the hissing sound.

Every teacher, at every conference as a child said the same about me also! Disruptive, over-social, distracts others, etc. It’s one of my best qualities as an adult! As long as he’s learning, respectful and follows (most) rules, tell that teacher to get bent :innocent:

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If they don’t talk there’s a problem. According to teachers. They just have to find 1 negative thing to say.

Sounds like a 5 year old. That was probably on most of their report cards.

It’s important to hurry up and turn him into a little pretend adult robot!
Try Gentle Parents Unite for advice.

Every report card I ever had said I talk too much. Didn’t stop me from getting good grades and becoming a successful adult.

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Our son now 35 yrs, old had this problem. Doctors said ADAH & put him on medication. All his talking stopped, honor roll but he was miserable. On weekends we did not give it to him. 7 th grade he rebelled & said NO MORE, I hate how it makes me feel. We did stop the medication he was very happy, but talked so much in school he was always in trouble. I believe schools want little zombies.

Sounds like ADHD. Going through it with my 5yr old

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I’d agree with most of the comments on speaking with the school & doctor just to be sure he doesn’t need an IEP, but… he’s 5 & school just started too. He’s probably so excited to make friends… my stepson is autistic & we practice settings at home & give him examples of preferred behavior & actually will sit down together & play classroom with real rules to work on the proper way to behave in class. I never want to discourage him in his learning environment, but helping them learn that what they do can affect others has helped. We just say, you can talk during your time, which is lunch, recess & home. At school we have to follow “outside manners”, and that includes being mindful of how others could be affected. We explain how being distracting to others is just one example of not very good manners & what can we do to be better… good luck!

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He’s 5 years old let him talk and be a kid .

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He is FIVE lol let him figure it out later.

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my daughter is a chatter box BIG time (always has been) but shes always known that school isnt the time for that. I got lucky I guess. I hope u find something that helps :heart:

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