My sons bio dad has never been in his life: Should I contact his grandparents?

I had a son at the age of 17. His bio father told me he wanted nothing to do with the baby when I was 6-8 weeks pregnant. I told him he would be the one to explain his choice to be absent to our unborn child.I wanted to give him a choice to attend the birth, so I called him, and his mother picked up and told me she didn’t consider this her grandchild — fast forward 15 years. My boyfriend of 9 years wants me to contact the grandparents and bring them into my son’s life. I did not want to bc they could have reached out at any point and made an effort. Same for his biological dad.I don’t know how to get it through my boyfriend’s head that it’s a touchy subject for me, and I rather not call them. They still live in the same house. But now his bio father is married and has 2+ kids with her. What would you ladies do?

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Leave it be. 15 years. Everything already happened

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Let sleeping dogs lie… where they belong. These people failed you.

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after 15 years and denial; best for your son is just to leave them alone. He hasn’t missed them; hasn’t missed them being grandparents; and does not need turmoil and chaos they all will create. Just leave things alone for your son’s best interest. Beleive me when I say things are best left alone; it backfired on me, so am advising on experience…

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For the safety of my kid no and not only no but mind your own damn business NO

Do Not contact them. You will just get rejected again. As you said they could have contacted you long before now.

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Its none of your boyfriends business

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Fuck them. Live your life…

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No. If they were intetested they would have came forward. Write them off.

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I never could do that knowing i have a child or grand child people are such jerks no heart …my youngest grandson. Doesn’t know his bio dad but was adopted at birth by my daughters husband …grannd parents haven’t reached out either …just sick…poor kids

Nope they dont deserve him, rejection will be harder for him now. And if hes lived this long without them hes fine.

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No, they wanted to be there they had many many many years to do so. Dont let them come in and mess up everything. Could effect his adult life and his future relationships.

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Um did she not tell you she did not consider your child her grandchild…forcing someone to be in a child’s life just because is wrong! You gave them a chance they made their choice!

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I would not be making any phone calls to them. Like you said, they already chose not to be in his life.

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No!! They made that decision before he was born!! This is on them! He is happier without them!! I’m sure he has grandparents that worship him and love him no strings attached!!

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Tell your BF no. They want nothing to do with your son. Thats their problem!! But pursuing this will do nothing but hurt your son. Sad that the sperm donor and his family are POS.

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Here is a thought…wait till your son is 18 and let him decide…I was 21 and knocked on my Mom’s door…with my son who was 4 at the time…Never seen her since I was 12…LET IT BE…Please ….They don’t want to know…LIVE YOUR LIFE AND LET HIM BE HAPPY.

It will just hurt your son …NO!

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It’s not his business, leave as is.

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Why isn’t your bf listening to you? Once should have been enough. Not his business.

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